*** THIS IS WRITTEN FOR THE HOPELESS ROMANTIC WHO JUST DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO*** ** * ROMANCE HIS GAL * ** * * * * * ABSTRACT THIS TEXT WOULD BE USEFUL FOR.. 1) THE ALL TIME BACHELOR WHO HAS DEVOTED ALL TIME TO SEARCHING FOR THE ALL TIME GIRLFRIEND AND IS ALL TIME BLUR ABOUT ROMANCE 2) THE ALL TIME STONE LOVER 3) THE ALL TIME DEVOTED LOVER WITH THE ALL TIME MUNDANE RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS GIRLFRIEND INTRODUCTION All women would love a man who could romance her, even though women in this era would somewhat acknowledged that romance is deceiving but not one would deny that just a dab of this romantic aroma could spruce up a woman's delight as well as sensuality.....mmmmmmm And as for you men, being the less emotional and stiff necked freaks have a truly hard time trying to please a woman because you never knew what she really wanted to have in the first place, right? Well, for starters..if you are filthy rich, then you could BUY romance with expensive dinners at high class restaurants, or fly to Paris for lunch then have dinner in Switzerland and buy her a fabulous daimond ring but then again you might still wonder why she just doesn't seem to be sizzling hot with passion and coming onto you. This methodology of throwing money like water works well with most women who look at your wallet first. But let's snap out of it and come back to reality, how many of you guys out there could afford it on a continual basis and what if she just happens to be a leech who wants more out of you everytime? READ ON... THE ONE What is is that tells you she's THE ONE and not a leech? Being a woman myself, I have to admit those good gals are some what hard to find nowadays but they aren't extinct! What a relieve! These women just like to take a back seat too much because all the "hieow"(vain) and pretentious women tend outshine them. I know you guys would prefer a beautiful curvacious woman posing as your girlfriend but hey stop cheating yourself if you really like someone who is not as good looking as your expectations, DON'T SUPPRESS it and tell yourself it'll never be just because she's ugly! IF SHE ...... 1) listens to you and tries to show interest even if you know you are boring her 2) is willing to do something she hates just because you persuade her to 3) is willing to compromise and listen to your suggestions 4) does not get irritated by you easily 5) is not critical of you 6) defends you 7) goes shopping and ends up buying things for you 8) remembers weird details about you (ic number?) 9) is concerned with the on goings of your family (that is if you ever tell her) 10) tries to take interest in whatever that facinates you eg.your hobby 11) is at ease with revealing her weakness and problems Then she might just very well be the one for you..If you are attached, do a quick check and if your gal scores a 7 or more ..she's worth keeping alright! **** RESCUE FANTASIES AND ROMANCE **** Sad to say women still live in hope of rescue fantasies coming true but the fact is that guys nowadays have no horses and no shining armours. How does this spell romance in a women's vocabulary anyway, you might wonder? Romancing a women likewise in her rescue fantasies is a form of getaway... women CAN forget EVERYTHING when romanced in the right way. In short it's like a form of stress relieve lah. And it definitely can be done without SEX. **** PLACES THAT BUILD THE SPARKS **** Please choose the perfect location to say the correct things and do the appropriate show of affection...otherwise your gal would definitely take you lightly or wonder if you were just kidding!! Some suggested places would be... 1) The beach, pond, river....anywhere near the cool, quiet waters 2) A star studed sky over a basketball court not surrounded by HDB flats 3) A cosy home 4) A walk down a broad uncrowded street 5) A cosy coffeeshop 6) By the pool 7) A stairway 8) A big field 9) On top of an empty double-deck bus 10) A romantic movie in the cinema 11) In the car 12) In the lift 13) Alone at a bus stop NO NO places !! 1) At a shopping centre 2) In a discotheque 3) At the hawker center 4) At the bus interchange 5) Outside the toilet 6) On an escalator 7) In the MRT !!! 8) On the MRT !!!!!! 9) At a concert 10) In the cab Although Singapore is a really small place with so many people...do try to break off from the routine ocassionally of eating then watching a movie and sending her home. Bring her out to some place you haven't gone in a long while or a new eating place. Whatever the case, never let a date become a routine that sticks with you for months until you break up! Just remember..choose a nice place with little noise and not too many pple so that she can hear you and focus on you better. If you aren't attached, please don't bring the girl to some "ooo loo"(deserted) spot because it'll create a bad impression on you. I also would like to advise you guys to restrain from a free show of affection everywhere because it definitely not romantic and women do get sick of you clamoring all over us when so many eyes are looking. Romance does involve some bodily contact but it gets out of control when lust comes in play. And romance to a woman is not always equivalent to a great session of passionate sex. *********** What should I suggest on a date ? ********** Most men are at a lost when women get bored and tell them to try and be more creative in their dating methods. But women normally cannot resist.. 1) looking through your baby pictures in the comfort of your/her home 2) having a home version of candlelight dinner cooked by you 3) squeezing in a photo-taking booth for instant pictures 4) going on a picnic having you read the love poems 5) a surprise gift of little origami made out of bus tickets folded by you 6) a walk down a quiet street sharing a walkman and singing at the top of your voices 7) a man who can strum a guitar or play any musical instrument to do a love song for her 8) a long love letter by you...(most men are of few words) 9) listening and humming along with the radio by the beach 10) having a wild splash at the pool with you 11) watching a horror movie and cudling up 12) kissing in the lift 13) star gazing 14) a bus ride to no where 15) a drink at compass lounge 16) a pillow fight/tickling session 17) trying out weird but exotic food 18) sitting in a coffeeshop and talking all day 19) a talking- walk to no where 20) taking a bumboat cruise 21) watching musical fountains If you have oredi done everything listed above, try bungy jumping together. *********** Where to touch ************** What to say ************** Basically women love to talk, I mean as in communicating feelings, ideas, dreams and anything not intensely personal but just personal. Try to Spend at least 10 minutes alone and free from distractions, to talk a little more. And TRY TALKING while you eat but without your mouth full of course! because talking eases tension and helps to increase understanding. 1)Create a sense of warmth in your conversation by including her; ask her about herself what she would like of prefer or her ideas etc. 2)Respond to her answers..rephrase what she says 3)Look at her and Smile.. 4)Hold her hand and give a slight squeeze when you tell her about how you feel about her 5)Talk to her about your relationship with her, how you find it so far. How significant she is to you. 6)If she responds positively verbally, you can give her a hug~ 7)If the both of you are already very close, try whispering your sweet assurance in her ears, then you may proceed to kiss her... Women need to be constantly assured by men to feel loved and satisfied, and in return they will offer you love and devotion(most of the time) and in due time themselves... Her vulnerability is her beauty, please do not abuse that. *******************