THE ART OF PARENTING
BURP AND
FART, I STILL LOVE YA
I remember sitting in
my room one night
after me and dad had a fight. Ya know it's just like no matter what i do
there never happy. Do ya know what i mean. Like pick this up put that away
don't touch that. don't go there, your stupid , your fat, look at you what
a slob you should be ashamed AAARRRGGGGGHHHHHH. blah, blah, blah, blah.
why can't they just allow me to do what i want. They don't love me. I wish
i was never born..
Does this sound familiar,
does this sound like things you said when you were little, or is it things
being mumbled under your childs breath. If so then what is said here is
the most important thing i have to say, If you are going to be or are a
parent them you must never be mad at your child, you can disapprove of
his behavior or dislike or even hate his choice of decisions.You can even
tell him that. You must never make ANY NEGITIVE responces about him
or his person. like your stupid, or your fat, or anything that implies
any type of condition to meet a your approval. EVER . Even in humor,
biting critisism is very hurtful to little people because we tend to hear
and listen to what you say, you are our teacher, and you do know best,
and it is the biggest joy to hear your approval and the most painful pain
to think we've dissapponnted you. And all were doing is the best we can
with information we have with, what we understand.
If a child knows that
he is loved no matter what he does or what he is, or what he thinks, then
he will always be able to come to you for help, or for advice. Then many
mistakes can be avoided and hardships missed and all that time not wasted
on negitive stuff can be spent on the positive.
In everything that
ever happens always end every conversation telling your child that you
love them, and that no mistake or accident will ever change that, that
their is nothing the child needs to do to earn that love. The securtiy
of this will give the child strength to learn and to grow and blossom into
the most wonderful being. It will also give them the strength to make more
mistakes and learn and become wiser. Never make a child scared to
make a mistake, this will destroy his ability to handle things that arise,
it will cripple there decision making power and what could be worse than
that.
