It was Oct 1993 that I was on America Online hitting the chat rooms. I entered "ThirtySomething" and started chatting with the people in the room. "SharonS316" was in the room. I messaged her, and we started chatting. We spoke of her recent trip to Paris, culture, love, romance, current events, in a nutshell anything & everything that came to mind. We agreed to meet online as often as possible. Over the next three months we grew from just chatting online to her calling me, until we finally agreed to meet face to face at a AOL party scheduled in Washington D.C. I was working two jobs at the time and at the last minute I had to go into work. Sharon & I both were very disappointed. After eating quite a bit of crow she agreed to meet me & give me one more chance. There was an AOL New Year's Eve party located in a little sports bar in northern NJ. I was living in Delaware at the time but a four-hour drive was nothing. I drove up there right after my job at Computer City (one of two I was working at the time.)so I was wearing black jeans, black tennis shoes, a bright yellow shirt and a 'biker' style leather jacket with snaps & zippers all over it. I have no dress sense, so this all seemed okay to me. As a matter of fact the pants were a size 42" waist, and I was a size 35" waist. I just bunched up the excess and pulled my belt across it. I saw nothing wrong with this. Of course today I know better. We met it took her 1/2 an hour just to speak to me...she was nervous, of course I'm sure she was shocked at my dress sense as well. We finally (after much alchool) started talking. And then dancing. After awhile it was like we were the only ones in the room.
After that night, I didn't talk to her for three days figuring what future would a successful woman like her want with me?? A friend of mine talked me into calling her. She was mad, but we worked through it. Then she started to feel as if her age (she was 8 years older than me) would come between us. One night she & I were talking and she started to tell me she didn't want to see me any more. I could sense a let down building. Just when I got my head on stright she was having doubts. I told her that if she was going to break up with me, that she would need to do it face to face. (Espcially after the lecture I got for not calling for those three days.) I drove the 3 hours from Deleware to New Jersey jumped out of the car she was waiting for me. She told me there was no more doubts about 'us' and promptly showed me why. There was a church around the corner from her house which she passed on her way to meet me. On the sign outside lit up as bright as day was the message "AGE ONLY MATTERS IF YOU'RE A CHEESE.". Although the age thing bothered her, she always felt that if God were writing her a letter personally that it was okay. I was ment for her, and I know she was ment for me.
That was the start of our relationship. It lasted for 6 years, a one month. She past away in Feb. 1999. It was sudden. This world will never see her like again and will be a much poorer place. But there are so many special people that God has made. Like stars in the heavens. I will not build an alter to her life, she did that when she was alive. Rather I will raise Hannah, and move forward carrying a peice of her heart with me always.
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Well now you know how we met & what kept us together. We had five years together. We faced hardships, we lost a business, had the electricty cut 4 or 5 times for non-payment, phone shut off a few times, and at one point went without cable for 6 months. But through it all she remained committed to making our marriage work. It was tough, but when the electricity was cut, she pulled out the candles and we had romantic evenings. When the phone was out we spoke about how nice the quite was. No cable forced everyone in the house to be a bit more creative. Sure we hated the situation, but we loved our family. To sacrfice in the name of love for one another & our family was the highest form of expression that we could show each other. We had our fights, but ours was the relationship everyone dreams of having. For the time we were together we loved each other for a lifetime.
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