Letting Go----Places Of The Heart

LETTING GO

"If you love something let it go.
If it returns to you cherish it
If it fails to return to you it was never truly yours."

Letting go doesn't mean that you stop caring,
it means I can't do it for some else.

To let go is not to cut myself off,
it's the realization that I can't control another.

To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.

To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
It's acknowledging I can only change myself.

To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.

To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another the right to be human.

To let go is not to be in the middle
arranging the outcome,
but to allow others to effect their own outcomes.

To let go is not to be protective,
it is to permit another to face reality.

To let go is not to deny, but to accept.

To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
But to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.

To let go is not to criticize or regulate anyone,
but to try to become whatever dream I can be.

To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future

To let go is to fear less
and to LOVE more.

Author Unknown

We must determine whether we really want freedom. Whether we are willing to dare the perils of rebirth. For we never take a step forward without surrendering something that we may have held dear, without dying to that which has been."

Virginia Hanson

WHO OR WHAT DO YOU NEED TO LET GO OF?

Throughout my years involved in Christian ministry I have encountered many people who say they can't change, or have given up on others who they say won't change. My experience tells me that the only ones that cannot be reached by change are those that still desire to embrace that which they are seeking to change.

You can never change the ideals, arguments, or life-styles of another as long as they continue to cling to them or choose them as their personal truth. All you can do is show good cause why something should be changed. At this point you must let them go. Only the individual can muster what ever courage is necessary to change...to do what needs to be done... and to face what is on the other side of their fear, which is where change is found. You cannot force courage upon another. All you can do is pray, and wait patiently for the results with outstretched hand, should they fall.

Sometimes the only reason people don't change is because we refuse to let go of their hand. Usually we hang on too tightly because subconsciously we too are afraid of how this change in them will ultimately effect our own life. For instance; we are fearful that they will no longer be dependent upon us, or that we will no longer have control over them, or that because of change they will no longer be our friend. However love demands that you take such a risk in helping another to change. Without such risk, you are just replacing one form of bondage for another. While that may indeed be change, it is not necessarily growth, and rarely is it for the better.

If you truly want someone to change for the better
TRY LETTING GO.

You may be surprised by the change you see in the both of you!

PLACES OF THE HEART