* ONE: STICK TO THE ISSUE. DON'T DRAG IN EVERY ISSUE YOU CAN THINK OF.
* TWO: DISCIPLINE YOURSELF TO STAY WITH PRESENT ISSUES. IT'S BEST TO
HANDLE ONE PROBLEM AT A TIME BEFORE YOU DRAG IN A LIST OF PAST
RESENTMENTS.
* THREE: SAY WHAT YOU FEEL, WHEN YOU FEEL IT, RATHER THAN STORING UP A
LONG LIST OF GRIEVANCES.
* FOUR: WHENEVER YOU GENERALIZE BY USING WORDS LIKE, "You always...You
never ...Why do you...Why can't you... You should do it this way...You shouldn't..."
THOSE ARE FIGHTING WORDS -- THEY ARE THE PERFECT SET-UP FOR A LONG,
DRAWN-OUT FIGHT.
* FIVE: NO THREATENING ALLOWED! EITHER VERBAL OR PHYSICAL. IF YOU ARE IN
A SITUATION WHERE THERE IS VIOLENCE -- GET OUT AND GET HELP!
* SIX:} INSTEAD OF BLAMING, NAME-CALLING, OR CRITICIZING YOU PARTNER'S
CHARACTER TRAITS, STATE YOUR NEEDS AS SPEIFIC REQUESTS FOR DIFFERENT
BEHAVIOR.
* SEVEN: SET YOURSELF A GOAL TO WORK TOWARD RESOLUTION. CONSCIOUSLY
CHOOSE TO NOT ESCALATE THE FIGHT. LOOK FOR SOLUTIONS WHERE THERE ARE
NO LOSERS. WHEN IT COMES TO LOVE, BOTH PEOPLE CAN WIN.

Did anyone ever tell you the rules of the Game of Love? I hope not, because there
  are no rules. The good news is that there are some clues for finding and creating
     successful, passionate and permanent partnerships.

 CLUE # 1: HOW ARE YOU BEING TREATED WHEN YOU'RE
  DATING?

 Even the very first date leaves many clues which many of us overlook in the blush of
  enthusiasm about getting together. Was it easy or difficult to set up the first date? If
     it was difficult to get a commitment or to find a free slot of time, chances are high
  the person has commitment challenges, ambivalent feelings, or just too many pulls
  in their life. Are promises broken in the first few weeks? Are you put down in front
  of others? Do you find your date trying to control your behavior or yourc choices in
  life?

 Alice shrugged off a little comment Tom made after they had been dating for just one
  month. "You take too many vitamins," he said, "You'd never get me to swallow all
  those pills." This seemingly small difference in health-styles later turned into fights
  about restaurant choices. Soon Alice began giving up her commitment to her own
  body's needs. Then she started missing her exercise classes to be available for Tom's
  schedule. She gained thirty pounds in her eight month relationship with Tom.
  Looking back she can see how significant that early comment was.

 CLUE # 2: IS THERE A MUTUAL RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER'S
     TIMING?
 

 Physical intimacy should never be coerced. Does your partner respect the time it
  takes for you to be ready for physical intimacy? How about frequency? Are you in
  sync with each other's desires? If not, how do you handle these different desires?
  Here's where the Art of Communication comes in. If you can't talk about the
  differences in your love-styles, and find win-win compromises, these problems will
  only accelerate. Often in relationships one person wants more sex than the other. In
  a healthy relationship these issues are discussed and solutiopns that acknowledge
     the needs of both people are found.

 CLUE # 3: IS YOUR LOVER ALSO YOUR BEST FRIEND?

 Being good friends, wanting to be with each other and share and do things together
  is a symptom of a healthy, long-term relationship. Good friendships are built over
  time, but you can deepen the friendship by creating more intimacy. To create more
  intimacy you need to share more of yourself, your true feelings. Take a risk with your
  partner and tell him or her something that is deep inside your heart. The more you
  both share, the stronger the bonds of togetherness are woven.

 CLUE # 4: DO YOU FEEL ENERGIZED OR DEPLETED WHEN YOU
  ARE TOGETHER?

 This is such a fundamental issue that we often overlook it. Does your partner
  enhance your sense of well-being? Do you feel better, happier, about yourself? Or do
  you feel drained? Less good about yourself? That is a symptom of a toxic
  relationship. Tony described his relationship with Julieta; "In the beginning I felt
  like I was on cloud nine. I couldn't believe such a gorgeous girl would be interested
  in me. But after a few months, I felt like nothing I did was right. She was always
  criticizing little things, like what I wore, the kind of car I drove, the restaurants I
  chose. I began to feel beaten up after every date."With her constant critical
  comments, his self-esteem nosedived and finally out of his last remnant of
  self-respect, he broke it off.

 Healthy relationships bring out the best in us. If you're looking for long-lasting love,
 & follow some of these proven clues for long-term happiness. Good luck! Remember,
  you really do deserve to have happiness and lasting love.
I agree with this too
this next one comes from DateCentral

Cyber Dating Dos & Don'ts
1. DO: Correspond with your new-online friend through e-mails and in DateCentral chatrooms(or any chat room) For several weeks, before committing to a first date.

2. DO: Look for inconsistcies in your correspondence with that person.  If you don't like the persons tone or demeanor cease all communication with that person.

3. DON'T: Give out your last name, address, phone number, or work address until you feel very comfortable with your new on-line friend.

4. DO: If you decide to meet your new online friend, pick a PUBLIC place, and meet during the day.  Let a friend or relative know of your plans.  Be sure to mention to your date that you must call that person.

5. DON'T: Expect or Accept a ride home from your date or an invite to go to their place.  Call a taxi and have the taxi pick you up in front of a public place.

6. DO: Act friendly to all members (people) and be kind if you decide to tell another member (person) that you aren't interested in them.
I would say all that is good sound advice!!

here are some hints on things from your friends at LoveLife

* Arguing about MONEY is rarely about money. It's about POWER issues.
 
 * Arguing about SEX is rarely about sexuality. It's about INTIMACY.
  * Arguing about household CHORES is rarely about chores. Its about FAIRNESS.

 * Arguing about the KIDS is rarely about the kids. It's about CONTROL.

 * Arguing about JEALOUSY is rarely about fidelity. It's about MATURITY.

 * Arguing about WORK is rarely about the work. It's about TIME.

 * Arguing about RELATIVES is rarely about them. It's about EXPECTATIONS.

  Explore your own chronic arguments and find out what's really underlying the
  issues for your self and your partner. If we're ever going to learn how to fight fair,
  we have to start by talking about the real issues that are bothering us. And most
  importantly,

  Keep on lovin'!
 

This next one is from SimplyValentine
Express Yourself

 RADIO LOVE
  Take special effort to broadcast a romantic message on a
  local radio station. Be sure that your lover is listening to
  the station and someone is ready to record the message as
  a keepsake.
  PERSONAL PERFORMANCE
  Show your love by putting on a private performance for
  your partner on Valentine's Day. Your performance could
  a song, poem, or romantic quote.
  WORK VISIT
  Drop by your lovers work unexpectedly with flowers and
  candy or for lunch. If showing up during the day is not
  possible try doing it at the end of the work day.
  LOVER'S LIST
  Make a list describing some of the reasons you love your
  mate. Below are some examples you can use.

                     Why you love your Valentine
                     What you like the most about your lover
                     Let them know how you appreciate all the
                     things they do
                     Let them know how they make you feel
  Why your lover is so important to you
  HIDDEN MESSAGES
   Put love messages in areas that will surprise your lover.
   Here are some suggestions:

  On the mirror or car window with mist on it
  A note on the wind shield of their car
  In the snow
  Mail a message
  Leave a message on the front door
  On the answering machine
  In a purse or wallet
  On or under their pillow
  In a frequently used book
  On the television or radio

I really agree with that one Love & Romance are what you make it SO GO MAKE SOME OF BOTH!!!
this next one islong but read it!!
this little morsel brought to you by Romance1001
Romance 101

  1

Romance is a state of mind. If you have the right mindset, you can make cleaning the bathroom
romantic; if you have the wrong mindset, you can turn a moonlit stroll on the beach into a fight.

  2

Romance is about the little things. It's much more about the small gestures_the little ways of
making daily life with your lover a bit more special_than it is about extravagant, expensive gestures.
(Although the outrageous certainly has its plac e in the romantic's repertoire.)

  3

There are two kinds of romance:

  Obligatory romance
  2) Optional romance

Both are important, and although my focus is on optional romance, beginners are advised to be
careful not to overlook the obligatory. But make no mistake about it: Optional romance is more
genuinely romantic.

Obligatory romance includes: Celebrating her birthday; getting him a gift for Christmas/the Holiday
Season; acknowledging your anniversary; remembering Valentine's Day.

Optional romance includes: Everything else. Little surprises. Big surprises. Candlelit dinners.
Champagne toasts. Weekend get-aways. Sending funny greeting cards, romantic cards, sexy cards,
home-made cards. Escaping from the kids. Exercising y our creativity. Massages. Surprise dates in
the middle of the week. Romantic movies. Love letters.

  4

Why be romantic? Why bother? Simple . . .

It will improve the quality of your life.

  10 Tips That Will Change Your Life

  13

Turn the ordinary into the special.

You can turn everyday events into "little celebrations"_opportunities to express your love for your
partner. We're not talking passion here, but affection. [We'll get to passion elsewhere . . . ] A tiny bit
of forethought can turn the ordin ary into the special.

  Eat dinner by candlelight.
  Tie a ribbon around a cup of bedtime tea.
  Pop your own popcorn while watching a video at home.
     Turn his birthday into a birthday month!
  Give her a bottle of cham pagne as a "thank you" for doing the grocery shopping.
  Leave a greeting card on his car seat when he's about to run errands for you.

  14

Recognize that one mode of expression isn't enough!

Love can be_and should be_expressed in many ways. But most of us settle into one mode that's
comfortable for us. And while it's familiar to you, it becomes boring for your partner.

Some of you are verbal. You share your feelings with your husband a lot. That's great. But you've
got to back it up with some modes of expression that communicate caring on other levels, too. Do
you share his interest in football, cars, bird-wat ching? Do you occasionally dress in his favorite
outfit?

, Some of you are action-oriented. You "prove" your love for your wife by "bringing home the
bacon," and taking out the garbage. That's all well and good, but you've got to bring her flowers
occasionally, and call her from t he office just to say "I love you."

  15

Recapture the fun in your relationship by viewing romance as "Adult Play."

Some people_especially men_tend to view romance as a serious (somber!) and difficult activity.
Nothing could be further from the truth! True romance is easy because it's simply an expression of
what's already inside you: Your feelings of love, caring and passion for your partner.

  "We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing."
  ~ George Bernard Shaw

The concept of adult play is a reminder to loosen up, be creative, and remember the fun and
passion you had early in your relationship. Adults need to re-learn how to play_something that came
naturally to all of us as children. Many ideas in thi s book are essentially exercises in playing.

  16

Understand the difference between a gift and a present.

A present is something you're giving the receiver because it's something you want him or her to
have.

A gift is something that you're sure the receiver wants.

When a man gives a woman lingerie, nine times out of ten it's a present. When he gives her favorite
perfume, it's a gift. This is not to say that one is better than the other. Gifts and presents are just
different. Knowing the difference between a gift and a present will help both of you stay "in-tune"
with each other and avoid unrealistic expectations and possible hard feelings.

Note #1: Items can sometimes be both gifts and presents at the same time.

Note #2: Because the words gift and present are commonly used as synonyms, I will use them
interchangeably in the remainder of the book for the sake of simplicity.

  Classic Romance

  23

Make a toast to one another every time you hold a wine glass. Make eye contact. Take turns
making the toast. Whisper it.

  24

Revive chivalry. Women love a real Gentleman.

  Open her car door.
  Hold her dinner chair.
  Help her on with her coat.

Older women will love the revival of manners.

Younger women will need to be re-trained to see these gestures as tokens of respect and affection,
and not as messages that men feel women are inferior and helpless.

  25

Go out dancing! Ballroom dancing is enjoying a resurgence unlike anything since WW II. Glenn
Miller, Benny Goodman and the Big Band sound are once again being heard in dance halls,
restaurants, clubs and church basements throughout the land.

  26

What could be more classic than a fine gold locket with your photo inside?

  Be Prepared!

  30

Be prepared for spontaneous romantic escapes! Have "His" and "Hers" overnight bags packed at all
times. Keep under the bed or in the car trunk.

  31

Go out this weekend and buy $50 worth of greeting cards. Don't ask questions, just do it! Head for
your nearest card shop and spend a solid hour reading hundreds of cards. Read all the Far Side
cards! Scan all the Peanuts cards. Find the sexy c ards. Get several birthday cards. Choose piles of
friendship cards. Get some sentimental ones. Don't forget cards with no inscription, so you can
exercise your creativity.

Now you'll be prepared for anything!

Don't forget to file some of these cards at work.

Pre-stamp the envelopes (with Love Stamps) to save time later.

  32

Be prepared for shopping! Know all of your partner's sizes! You should be able to buy any item of
clothing for him or her, and have it fit 80% of the time.

Could you buy her any item of lingerie? A coat? A sweater?

Could you buy him a pair of shoes? A pair of gloves? A hat?

  33

Be prepared with a romantic music library. (See these chapters for specific musical suggestions:
"Lovesongs" and "Making Beautiful Music Together.")

 

  53

Make your own greeting cards. Store-bought cards are fine_I have a drawer full of them . . . but
home-made cards are extra special. You don't have to be artistic, just heartfelt. (Remember, she's
with you not because you're Picasso, but because you're you.)

  54

Make a "Commemorative Scroll" to celebrate his birthday, your anniversary, or any special year.

+ Pick the year.

+ Research the major happenings of that year.

U Here are some suggested categories:
In the News, Advertising, TV, Radio, Quotable Quotes,
Movies, Broadway, Music, Sports, Art, Books, Fashion,
Scientific Breakthroughs, Politics, World Events, Religion, Daily Life, Miscellany.

+ See #756 for two invaluable books that provide all the information you'll need for this little project.

+ Write-it-up, type-it-up, word-process-it or calligraphy-it. Present it!

  55

Hiding places for notes and small gifts:

O Under the pillow O In his briefcase

O In the glove compartment O In her purse

O In the medicine cabinet O In a pizza box

O In the refrigerator O Under his dinner plate

  56

Truly mischievous romantics go to great lengths to hide gifts and notes. Herewith are some
suggestions from the more off-the-wall students of the Romance Class:

O Carefully open various product packages, insert the item, and
carefully re-seal the package. Favorite targets include cereal boxes, soup cans, ice cream cartons,
bags of m&m's, candy bars, soda cans, and, of course, boxes of Cracker Jacks!

O Notes have appeared frozen in ice cubes, floating in punch bowls, hidden among bouquets and
tied to balloons.

  Flowers

  66

You may forget your Social Security number, your e-mail address, or your anniversary (although I
hope not!)_but here's one important number that you should never forget:18003569377. But
wait_here's an easier way to remember it:

1-800-FLOWERS

It's like having a local flower shop at your fingertips 24 hours a day, 7 days a week! The freshest
flowers, unique and exciting arrangements, on-time delivery, expert floral advice and friendly service.
What more could you ask for?!

 

When traveling, give her a rose for each day you'll be away.

  68

Scientific surveys reveal that 99% of all women love flowers. (The other <1% fall into the
Practical/Logical minority: They'd rather have the cash.)

Flowers are great not only because they're appreciated, but because they're easy to order by phone;
because flower shops grow conveniently on every corner; and because flowers come in every price
range.

  Bring home a bouquet.
  Give her one red rose.
  Select her favorite flower.

 

The Perpetual Bouquet™. Bring home one flower a day for a week or two or three. You'll create a
wonderfully diverse bouquet day-by-day. It gives both of you something to look forward to, and
you'll have an ever-changing, always-fresh re minder of your love.

  70

(Men like flowers, too.)

 

Place a flower under the windshield wiper of his car.

  79

Did you know . . . that different colored roses have different meanings?

Red = PASSION! Pink = friendship Yellow = R E S P E C T White = Purity

You singles should pay special attention to this. Early in a relationship is often too soon to send red
roses. Send pink or yellow. (Women notice these things.)
  All I really need is love, but a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt!

  ~ Lucy Van Pelt (in Peanuts, by Charles M. Schulz)

  Chocolate

  86

Chocolate! There's just something about it, isn't there?! While I firmly believe that romance
shouldn't be used as a bribe to curry favors, a box of great chocolates is an incredibly
well-received gift, isn't it?

 

800-9GODIVA

  88

Reliable sources report that chocolate may just really be an aphrodisiac.

p Fact: Chocolate contains large amounts of phenylethylamine, a chemical that is also naturally
produced by the body when one has feelings of love.

p Observation: 99% of all women love chocolate. 50% of them really love chocolate. 25% of them
really, really love chocolate. And 2% of them really, really, really love chocolate!

p Fact: The Aztecs considered chocolate to be so powerful a stimulant that women were forbidden
from having it!

  89

A lifelong passion for chocolate inspired one couple in the Romance Class to embark on a
round-the-world search for the Ultimate Chocolate. They actually arrange their vacations so they can
visit all of the major chocolate manufacturers in various coun tries! (You might consider your own,
scaled-down search_with taste-testing sessions, comparing Hershey's with Nestle's with Godiva with
Fanny Farmer with Whitman's!)

  A Touch of Class

  99

Hire a pianist to play during dinner at home.

  100

Have his portrait painted from a photograph.

  101

Propose a toast to her while at a dinner party with good friends.

  102

Make a donation to her favorite charity_instead of going on your next expensive date. You can show
her that you care about her, and at the same time show you care about the whales or the
environment or her favorite cause.

  103

When's the last time you visited your local art gallery? Museum? Public garden? Planetarium?

 

  110

Eat dinner by candlelight. Heck_eat breakfast by candlelight!

  111

If you live in the city, take a drive in the country. If you live in the country, visit the nearest city. If
you're landlocked, visit the coast. If you're coastal, find a mountain to hike.

  112

Shower together. My ongoing poll of Romance Class participants indicates a drastic drop in
co-ed showering following the sixth month of serious dating, or fourth month of
marriage_whichever comes first. Showering together is not only romantic, it's ecologically
responsible.

o You can buy shower heads built-for-two! They have two nozzles, so one of you doesn't have
to shiver while the other showers!

 

Take the "spinner" from an old board game. Draw a new circle and label it with a dozen romantic
activities. Tape the spinner to your refrigerator, and take turns giving it a spin once a week!
(Re-draw the circle with new romantic ideas eve ry few months.)

 
  You know that it's forever;
  As I give my love I give my Word to you.
  And as our lives unfold for us,
  We'll watch them bloom together,
  Every moment we shall see the world anew.
  ~ Brit Lay, "Wedding Song" (See #439)

  A Month of Romance

  117-144

  Week 1

  Sunday

Buy a guide book for the city or region where you live. Visit someplace you've never been before.

  Monday

Check the morning newspaper for his horoscope. Cut it out, write a comment in the margin. Tape it
to the bathroom mirror. Or put it in his briefcase. Or stick it in his appointment calendar. Or put it in
his pants pocket.

  Tuesday

After you say good-bye, turn back one more time and blow her a kiss. Several couples I know have
turned this little routine into a sometimes-funny, sometimes-touching ritual.

One pair even acts out the acceptance of the kiss with the receiver pretending to be smacked on the
cheek with the flying kiss! (This idea is especially attractive to mimes and would-be actors.)

  Wednesday

Buy a lottery ticket. Give it to her with a note attached: "Take a chance on me. Your chances are
better than one in a million!" or "I hit the jackpot when I married you!"

  Thursday

Thursday is gift day! Bring home a bottle of scented massage oil. You figure out the rest . . .

  Friday

Plan your weekend together! Figure out how to get those chores done quickly and efficiently, so
you'll have time to be together.

  Saturday

Touch more. Hold hands. Brush her cheek with your lips. Stroke his arm. Rub her neck. Massage
his feet. Hug! Kiss her nose. Cuddle! Nibble his ear. Massage her back. Sit on his lap.

  Surprise!

  153

Buy him a puppy. Buy her a kitten.

  154

« Surprise your partner with an unexpected three-day weekend. (Arrange it ahead of time with
his or her boss and staff.)

« Surprise her by doing one of her chores for her.

  155

Surprise her by giving her a gift on your birthday. First, you'll surprise the heck out of her! Second,
you'll experience the truth that "It's as much fun to give as it is to receive."

  156

     Surprise her by celebrating "Cat in the Hat Day," March 2nd.
  Surprise him by celebrating "National Grouch Day," October 15th.
  Surprise your lefty lover on August 13th, "Int'l. Lefthanders Day."
  Surprise your trivia buff by celebrating "Trivia Day," January 4th.
  Keep the surprises coming by getting a copy of an indispensable resource book called The
  Day-By-Day Celebration Book, by John Kremer. With 4,800 listings, you'll be able to find
  some reason to celebrate or take the day off work any day of the year! At bookstores or call
  515-472-6130.

  Happy Birthday!

  160

Use sparklers instead of candles on his birthday cake.

  161

Send her a birthday card every day for a month!

  162

On your lover's birthday, send her mother a "Thank You" card.

  164

How about a video celebration of the year he was born? For just $14.95
you can get a 30-minute taped newsreel, featuring world events, news, personalities, styles and
major events from the year of your partner's birth. Call Flik-Baks at 800-541-3533; in California,
310-823-5755. These are the years that are available so far: 1929, 1930, 1932, 1939, 1940, 1941,
1942, 1943, 1949, 1950, 1951, 1952, 1953, 1954, 1955, 1959, 1960, 1961, 1962, 1963, 1964
& 1965.

  Celebrate!

  174

Balloons! Balloon bouquets. Helium-filled balloons. Heart-shaped red balloons. Mickey
Mouse/Snoopy/Garfield balloons. Silvery, shiny mylar balloons. Giant-sized balloons. Balloons
with your names on them. Balloons with personalized messages on them. Look in your local
Yellow Pages under . . . "Balloons."

  175

New Year's Eve in Times Square!

  176

Have you made your plans for the two New Year's Eve celebrations to end all New Year's Eve
celebrations? I'm talking about the next millennium! It's coming soon! When the calendar changes to
the year 2000, and then to 2001, the planet's going to party like never before. Start planning!

  177

Celebrate all of the basics (birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and Valentine's Day), and then . . .

Celebrate other special, crazy or unique occasions. These are a few of the occasions that some
members of the Romance Class celebrate:

  Beethoven's birthday: December 16th
  "Full Moon Day"
  The spring and autumn Equinox
  The winter and summer Solstice
  "Hug Day" (Leo Buscaglia's birthday!_March 31st)
  "First Snowfall Day" (A good excuse to skip work!)
  First spring day over 70 degrees
  Oprah Winfrey's birthday: January 29th
  Payday!
  National Kazoo Day: January 28th
  Temporary Insanity Day: February 19th
  National Goof-Off Day: March 22nd
  Relationship Renewal Day: May 3rd
  Garfield's birthday: June 19th
  National Puzzle Day: July 13th
  Kiss-And-Make-Up Day: August 25th
  Snoopy's birthday: October 2nd
  Sweetest Day: October 16th
  Mickey Mouse's birthday: November 18th
  National Whiner's Day: December 26th

  Valentine's Day

  178

Valentine's Day is not the most romantic day of the year. [You still have to recognize it and act
on it_but you don't get any extra credit for it, guys.] Valentine's Day is one of those
Obligatory Romance days.

 179

Greet him at the front door wearing a big red ribbon_and nothing else. (This also makes an
inexpensive_and always appreciated_birthday or anniversary gift!)

  186

St. Valentine's Day mid-winter carnivals are held in these cities:

d St. Paul, Minnesota

d Quebec City, Canada

d Venice, Italy

Bundle up, then hop in your car or call your travel agent to make plans.

  187

Use kids' valentines: A whole box full of silly puns and clich‚s, all for just a couple of bucks.

  Mail a boxful of 'em.
  Fill the sink with them.
  Fill his briefcase full of them.
  Fill her pillow with them.
  Tape them all over her car.
  Mail one-a-day for a month.

  Beware of "Relationship Entropy", The tendency of relationships to become more diffuse if
 not cared-for and nurtured; the tendency for once-close lovers to drift apart if both of them
  don't work at it.

  ~ GJPG

  Little Things Mean a Lot

  193

Write him a little love note; insert it in the book he's reading.

  195

Brush her hair for her. Be gentle.

j Several couples in the Romance Class have turned hair-brushing into a nightly ritual. They report
that it provides them with a great time to relax at the end of the day, spend time alone together, and
talk.

  196

Prescription for Romance #4: Run your hands under hot water before coming to bed (!)

  197

Give him a T-shirt featuring his favorite cartoon character.

  198

Prescription for Romance #5: On Monday, place a single flower on the kitchen table. On
Tuesday, place a different flower on her pillow. On Wednesday place a flower in the sink.
On Thursday . . .

  Actions Speak Louder Than Words

  202

Carve her initials and yours in a tree.

  203

Leave a trail of your clothes, leading from the front door to your bedroom.

  205

Fill a basin with hot water. Take off his shoes and socks for him. Sit
him down in his favorite chair. Wash his feet. Let them soak for 10 minutes. Dry off his feet. Resume
life as before.

  206

Hug. Cuddle. Snuggle. Touch. Stroke.

(In 1985 Ann Landers asked her readers: "Would you be content to be held close and treated
tenderly and forget about 'the act'?" She was swamped with 100,000 replies within four days, with
72 percent of them saying "yes," they woul d be content to just snuggle.)

  The essence of romance is communication.
   Love Links
i found some of these through searches & some at PEGASUS check out
Wisdom of Love
Date Central
LoveLife
Wedding Connection
Give Her The Perfect Gift
Hopeless Romantic
Power of A Massage
Ask Don Jaun
Ask Eve
Site At A Glance
Best Match
Singles In Sight
Ps I Love You
Match
Personals
Romance on-line
Matchmaking
Romantic e-mail cards
  Couldn't find a background or buttons that I liked
so I made me some lol aren't they cute.. very much
an amateurs work but I like em!!!