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Many people have been taking the offensive against bullies ever since the suicide of the teenager that left a note saying that he was unable to deal with the bullying any more (no names mentioned). Currently it seems that we are in the "aftermath" of this incident. All throughout time there has always been bullies terrorizing people, and in my opinion bullies will always be around. It doesn't seem right, but in my opinion that is the reality of it all.
I can remember back in school for me that there were bullies that picked on me, mainly because I felt it unnecessary to fight back. After a while people started to respect me for not fighting back. In the set of mind that I had in school, I knew that the bullying could get worse if I fought back. Also I felt that they were picking on me to see if I would start giving out their names to the teachers/principal, I got a bit more respect from other people when I didn't do that either. When I got into high school the bullying did continue, although I had some friends that would defend me if need be the bullying did continue.
There were times that the bullies tried to physical cause me to fight them. The bullies did find out that I wouldn't fight them in an offensive way, however I would fight them in a defensively way. The first fight that I fought back in (only defensively) there were 3 of the bullies there. There were 2 bullies holding me still (1 per side of me) while the 3rd bully was able to punch freely. These bullies ambushed me outside of the bus before I could get on at the end of the day, and the fight only lasted 15 minutes. These bullies also must have just been looking for a name for them at the high school but forgot to do some of the homework about me such as who my friends were or if I had siblings. The fight started off with them ambushing me, holding me still while the other attacked.
All 3 of the bullies were shorter than I was at that time (I was 6' tall compared to them at 5' 8"), and the one throwing the punches couldn't hit my face due to the extra height. The people on the bus I was going on were all laughing at the person, which ticked him off. So that bully started hitting my ribs & stomach area, which he was hitting because the 2 holding me stopped me from dodging it (or protecting myself). Five minutes went by and he thought it would be good to bring me in front of the bus so that people in front of the school could see that he was winning, and they took we out there. The bully continued his attack while I was taking the hits, 2 minutes went by and some blood started coming out of my mouth. They thought I was done for and the 2 behind me started to loosen their grip on me and allowed be to get some air. The one doing the hits thought he would be smart so he decided to do a running punch; he backed up (approximately 10-15 ft) and started to run at me. He got around 4 feet to me and he got "clothes-lined" over the nearby railing by my brother.
The bully was showboating too much and got tagged. The 2 that were holding me thought that they could still hide behind me while my brother was there, however they didn't count on the fact that I still had something left. The 2 tightened their grips once again, while one grabbed me by the throat to threaten to choke me. I yelled out to my brother to clothesline me so he went for the charge. The 2 bullies thought that I was serious, just as my brother got close I "buckled" my own knees so that it would be just dead weight that the 2 bullies were holding. As you can guess it caught them off guard and they dropped me onto the ground, as my brother "clothes-lined" them both. Both of those bullies received a concussion from the fall, and the one that went over the railing had a big bruise on his arm and one on his leg from the railing he went over. I had a couple of bruises on my ribs, nothing on my face, and a small cut on my tough when I bit it to make it bleed.
Although it seemed that the bullies outnumbered me, the thing about defensive fighting is that it doesn't have to be a physical defense from you personally when you defend yourself. I saw my brother coming from the school so I dropped a little (and bit my tongue) to seem like the hits were doing a lot of damage. I knew that if my brother saw the fight he would attack in his way to defend me. I may not be a defensive fighter physically however mentally & strategically I am a defensive fighter. Now I still do not through the first punch, I may not throw any punches, however I will defend myself if necessary. I have no training for defending myself however I do know how to block things and how to wrestle a bit (the stuff I do with friends). I still will not fight if I a have a choice however many people will try in the future to see how far they can push me to get me to fight.
For me I found that not doing anything to start a bully from attacking me was the way to go. Now a days it seems just doing that will make the bully to attack you too. However the monitoring of every person that has a form of bullying in their record may just instigate a bully to attack people too because people would be doing a form of prejudice to the bully or bullies of an area. Back in my time of school things were settled without the law, without the schools, and without the parents being involved. For me, and the people I dealt with, it all dealt with respect, it seems that people in the schools now seem to have forgotten that single thing that could cause the bullying to die off a little.
Bullies will always be around the schools, communities, and parks/play grounds. There is nothing that anyone can really do about it except take any power that bully has and turn it against him or her. It doesn't matter if there are laws passed to stop them from doing what they do; they will still do it because there are always loopholes in everything. If there is a law that is passed that a person can tell an official that someone was bullying them and the bully would be sentenced for it, the loophole for that one is that if a bully is to attack someone and the person fights back the bully could say that he was defending himself against the other person. This defense has been used in the past and most likely will be used again in the future. The schools could be monitoring students that have been known to act like a bully to others closely, however if the bully is attacked by 1 or more people just because he was a bully at one time, and he defends himself, the attackers could say that the bully was at it again and have him take the fall for something he didn't do. If things are done to stop bullies, people really have to think about it hard to see how to stop something like that happening too.
I know that the death of the teenager did make many see the bullying in a different way, however every single last person knew that there was bullying going on in that school (and in every other one), and nothing has been done about it. Every single parent, teacher, and adult of any kind has been bullied in his or her life, and if they say that it's not true, they are lying. Everyone knows that bullies do exist however they feel that it isn't his or her responsibility to have his or her children prepared to deal with it properly. They all expect that the schools with take care of it, or his or her child will come to them with the problem of the bully. The thing that everyone is forgetting about is the simple fact that the children will do exactly the same thing as the parents did, they will not care about the problem and hope that it goes away on its own. If this same process continues, the problem will have more power than everyone is willing to emit to. Most of the time when a bully succeeds in bullying a person the bully will try to something to someone that is a little worse, and after time these are the same people that are in jail for murder or worse. When people realize this as the truth, then there is a chance to have the bullies taken care of before it gets worse.
You could say in its own way that bullying is a form of terrorism. Bullying is terrorizing someone or a group of people, which is the same thing as a person doing terrorism. Everyone wants the terrorism to stop altogether, however are not willing to look at their own children, schools, etc. to see if they can stop here first. To say terrorism is wrong and put up with what goes on in the schools today, or what goes on outside of the schools with the children is just another way to have a form of bullying go on. Although the attack on the United States on September 11, 2001 was terrorism at its finest, it doesn't mean that the President of the United States has the right to attack every single country in the Middle East for the attack, especially when he can't stop the terrorism that the United States does to itself (robberies, murder, etc.). All the President of the United States is doing, in my opinion, right now is showing that he is a bully that is retaliating after caught off guard from an attack from another bully. If the war continues with the way it has been going, that is exactly how people in the future will see him as.
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