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Christmas is coming up once again. It is the time of the year that everyone enjoys the most. Some people enjoy Christmas because of the presents that he/she receives, and some people enjoy Christmas because of the religious aspects of it. There are also some people that enjoy Christmas because it is the only time of the year that he/she receives any time off so he/she visits family/friends that he/she normally wouldn't be able to see. No matter the reason, everyone enjoys this time of the year.
Many people will decorate for Christmas. These people are usually the creative type because he/she will have the ability to do the decorating every year. This type of person always seems excited when Christmas is around because he/she has the chance to show the creativity he/she has to the world. There are some people that do a lot for decorating and there are some that do very little decorating. Either way the people are showing his/her creative abilities. Unfortunately there are some people that don't do any decorating at all. These people either are very uncreative, or he/she doesn't have enough time in the week to do too much for decorations. I can honestly say that it is sad to find people that don't decorate for such a festive time of the year.
I find that a place that just "puts up the tree", and nothing else, must have very little to no creative ability. I have found that everyone that puts up decorations on the inside & outside of the house is encouraging people to join him/her. When people do not put the decorations up on the outside of the house, I feel that the people are telling others to not come to that house for any reason. Just doing decorations on the inside of the house shows that the people only want to spend Christmas with family/friends that he/she sees all the time anyhow. These people seem to not want to have family/friends that he/she doesn't see a lot, to come by at all because the house isn't decorated in the way to seem to be inviting. It is sad to see a house not being inviting to the public. It is just like insulting people when there are no decorations up for Christmas on the outside of the house. For Christmas time it is more of a courtesy to put up decorations on the inside & outside of the house because it shows that he/she wants Christmas to be as inviting as it is suppose to be.
I know of a few people that put up more decorations than are necessary for any occasion. Not just Christmas time but other times such as Halloween. There are limits to the need to put up decorations, however some people do go overboard. This can be seen as a positive or a negative. The negative is that he/she has made something simple into something hard. The positive is that he/she has shown how much creativity that he/she has, and is willing to do for that creativity. There are always two different sides to anything that happens.
Everyone has someone in his/her family that he/she doesn't want to visit within the Christmas holidays, however is required to do so anyhow. It doesn't matter how close a family is, there is always someone that no one wants to visit. It could be the reason that the family member seems to be insulted easily, the family member feels that you aren't doing your true potential in life; it can be for any reason at all. In my family, this type of person is for both of those reasons. I still go to visit this part of the family, however I don't enjoy going there as much as I once did. It just seems to be a nuisance now rather than seeing family. There is a catch to the problem that I have with this part of the family. I will not be insulting to any member of the family, knowingly anyhow, but this part of the family will not bring up anything insulting to me when I am around. This part of the family has told others how he/she feels about what I do for a job and how he/she doesn't approve of it because I can do so much better, however will not confront me directly about it. A family member doing something like this can prove to make enemies quickly, especially if the family member is too "chicken" to confront me directly. I only found out about this because other family members told me about it, to warn me to watch for what I say around these family members. I know what I would like to say, however I do not want to insult the family completely. I also do not wish to cause any unnecessary waves within the family, itself. These family members are creating enough waves for the family to deal with as it is.
There are many people that seem happy or happier when Christmas is near. There are also people that seem to be more disturbed when Christmas is near. Those that cannot be happy, for some small reason, during Christmas are those that try to make others feel worse than he/she does. This type of people I cannot stand. You may ask why I cannot stand them, especially where I had been in a depressed state for the last 10 years, because it would seem that I would be just like them in a way. In defense to that, I may have been in a depressed state for the last 10 years, however I never tried to drag others beneath me and I always showed (faked) some happiness for some people. Being courteous enough to not bring others down to my level and showing some emotion (fake or not, does the same affect), made me different from the people I cannot stand. I was able to see that I had the problem not everyone else. I saw no reason to bring others beneath me to make myself feel better, it made no sense to me to cause others pain that way. The people I cannot stand are the ones that do cause pain to others to make himself/herself feel better about himself/herself. It is wrong and no reason for it.
With Christmas getting closer, this year I have noticed that I actually feel good about it. For other years I just saw Christmas as an extra long weekend to spend with family/friends. This year I seem to be feeling better about this time of the year. I don't know if it is because I have come out of the depressed state that I was in, or if it is due to me wanting to spend more time with my family/friends. I am unclear about it, however it doesn't really matter because it is a better change than what it was last year. It is almost one year ago that I decided it was time to change the way I saw my life. It is almost one year ago since I told my mother that I was coming out of my bad mood, that I had been in for the past 10 years. I have found that the closer I get to my friends, the more I am enjoying the fact that Christmas is near. Where I have begun to feel the extra emotion that is involved with Christmas time, I see why people seem to be in better moods when this time of the year is here. I know it is difficult for some of you to understand not having emotions for Christmas and then suddenly have the emotions for Christmas. It doesn't matter to me because this is the way that I am. I blocked as many as emotions as I could for the last 10 years, so now I am relearning how to express those emotions once again. It is sort of like having a form of innocence once again.
With every family, there are special things that are done around special occasions such as Christmas. In the past I didn't want to do those things because I only wanted to be alone around those times. This year I will do those things with a clearer mind than in the past, so I will be able to see whether it is worthwhile to do some of those "family things". As it stands I have already done a lot for my parents this year. I have done things this year, in the past couple of weeks, which have both helped my parents and surprised them. It is amazing to see what a person can do when he/she can put his/her mind to doing something.
Soon Christmas will be here and we all can celebrate in our different ways for our different reasons. It is one of the best experiences that a person can have when celebrating something special with family/friends. Having a time of the year that brings the good/best out of everyone, such as Christmas, is always necessary with all the bad things that can happen to someone. Hopefully no bad things happen to anyone during the Christmas break, however for those whomever do have bad things happen hopefully you are able to see a positive thing about the situation. Lately I have been seeing the best/worst of people due to the environment that I work in. It is odd to see the worst in people during this time of the year, and I hope for these people that after time he/she gets to be happier for this time of the year.
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