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Respect is truly a form of human emotions. To respect a person you must feel that they deserve to be recognized for this respect. It may take a long time for someone to become respected. It also doesn't take much for someone to lose the respect from other people.
The reason why it can take some people longer than others to gain respect is because it is difficult for people to trust one and another. If the person doesn't seem to do a lot of things, there is a high chance that no one will respect that person. If you don't anything that is seen as something to trust about you, you will have little or no respect from people because you aren't trying to earn it. Most males try to scare the respect that they want from people, however that is not respect. It is fear that the males are using that has the appearance of being respect.
Many people say that they don't get any respect that they deserve. This can be true at times, but the person usually doesn't deserve it for a reason. The person that doesn't get recognized for the respect that is necessary is usually the type of person that wants things handed to them. People like this exist everywhere and demand the your respect all of the time.
Some people will respect others for being able to control his/her temper when he/she is being challenged. The person could be getting severely criticized/insulted, but still doesn't retaliate to the attack. This type of attack will challenge the person's emotional control. If the person is able not to respond in a physical form, the person will get a lot of respect from his/her peers. The problem is that the person doing the challenge has a high chance to not respect you because you are causing him/her to look like a fool around other people.
The person that gives out the punishment deserves no respect because they probably do it a lot. They should either removed from the public's eye so that the person has no chance to act up, or the person should get attacked and lose the attack in the process. The person will lose a lot of respect from other people if someone weaker is able to defeat him/her, or he/she attacks someone that has already lost the fight but the person won't stop beating him/her. Bullies tend to do this to gain respect from other people but only really obtain a form of fear from the person, and others.
Respect is to be earned, not influenced negatively onto someone else. For some people doing a negatively influenced action will give him/her a form of pleasure, but others will see them to have less respect in the process. For example, causing fear into other people to make it look like respect, however its not. Respect is the type of emotion that you receive from other people. It can/will be taken away quicker than it was received, but is a form of need for everyone to have.
Everyone wants respect, whether they have earned it or not. The problem is that you need to earn respect to have the respect returned, however there is always a happy medium for it all. The only time it gets tricky is when a person decides not to show any respect, of any kind, to someone. This is usually when you have more disagreements happen. When running/working in a business it is a lot trickier when respect is involved. Many people feel that if they are treated rudely that there is no respect being issued on either side. This usually causes more harm than good.
Many people believe that if they come across a job that he/she feels is beneath them, he/she will show less/minimum respect to the person doing that job. For some it is a gas station attendant, and for some it is a tow-truck person. For those examples, those people receive a lot of hassle from other people (due to the hassle there is no respect being used for either party). A gas attendant will have the odd customer come in and make fun of them for the way they are dressed (the uniform) or may be criticized for not hurrying to the vehicle to make their stay less, or something worse. The same goes for a tow-truck driver for not getting to the call quick enough in that person's eyes. This does happen more than what people realize.
When there is not a lot of respect thrown to a person, the person tends to snap back at the person that is not respecting the other person. It is unfortunate that things like this happens, however the only cure is to give out a little bit of respect to a person regardless if you haven't met them before, or even if the company they work for has a bad reputation. This will give everyone a little respect in the end and give a better chance for having the respect returned. It doesn't really matter whether the respect is returned or not, it just matters if you did try to give the person the respect. If you try to give a person respect, you will have a better feeling of respect for yourself, which is the most important thing to have. If no one expects you, you should see if you are respecting both yourself and him/her. If you have no respect for yourself, then there is no way someone else will respect you either.
There are times when one person in a company will have no respect for anyone, including customers, and is considered to be mean towards those people. This type of person is looking at the customers to be the ones beneath of him/her, which in turn will cause conflicts. If this same customer goes to a different branch and gets treated nicer, there is a high chance that there will be little/less problems at the second branch. This unfortunately means that at the first branch there will be more conflicts to come up because the customer would be able to say that he/she doesn't' have this type of problems at the other branch. In a situation like this, it is difficult to have the second branch tell the first branch what the real problem is because the second branch doesn't want to have the first branch anger/mad at them. It really gets difficult if the Head Office to the two branches tries to be in the middle of the conflict also. It is difficult because the second branch is unable to tell what the real problem is without causing more harm than good to the first branch. Also in turn it could cause more harm than good to the second branch, itself, if it is seen to be taking a "pot-shot" at the first branch.
It is rather unfortunate that more people aren't more respectful to one and another. If there were more respect in the world, then many things would actually disappear such as prejudice & racism. Those things would disappear because you can't really hate someone in that way when you respect them. This would be beneficial to everyone, but the reality of the world is that it would never happen. There is always the few that don't know how to stop hating and see no reason to trust/respect anyone enough to stop the prejudice/racism; which is rather sad in my eyes.
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