SAFETY FIRST! Yes, i did, and still DO trust my Master deeply; that is one of the foundations of our complete relationship. However, at his instruction, I did some online research about real-time meetings between cyber Masters and slaves. What I learned, to be frank, scared the hell out of me!!!! There are a lot of horror stories out there, about real-time meetings, and the most scary thing is, they are TRUE. So, although my trust in my Master is complete, I made logical and practical arrangements about safety. I knew his real name, FULL real name that is, and his home address and phone number. Any Dom who will not give you this information, after asking YOU to trust him with your LIFE, is to be avoided. No Master can expect his sub or slave to trust him more than he trusts her; it is very much a two-way street. I also made certain that a real-life good friend of mine knew when and where (yes, the exact hotel, room number, and times) that we were meeting. She was also going to be available at her phone should I need to call her in the event of a problem. Or, if she did not hear from me by a specified time, she would know where I was, who I was with, and to get help to me. I cannot possibly stress the importance of safety enough. This is YOUR LIFE you're dealing with, and its insane to gamble. Taking logical and practical precautions does not mean that you don't trust your Master; it means that you are a rational, thinking individual. Any Master thats worth being with will value this in his sub. ^sparrow's site, subNation has a wonderful section on "Making the leap to real life from IRC"; if you intend to meet your online Master, PLEASE read it!! I read it, and took ^sparrow's advice. I am glad I did, and so is my Master. Also, as ^sparrow points out, any toys that are going into YOUR body should logically be provided by YOU. This is what we did, and not only did Master not have a problem with it, he suggested it! He also took the responsibility for making sure we did "safe sex," he provided condoms, without my having to even suggest or ask it. That told me a great deal about him; that he cared about me, and also that he was a reasonable enough person to take precautions to protect himself, too. I think my Master expressed it wonderfully; when we talked about it, he said that if a Dom is going to take on the "Dom" or "Top" role; in his opinion it was the Dom's responsibility to insure the safety of his sub/slave (and himself). That attitude on his part, just made me love him even more, and confirmed the trust that I already had in him.
"The" Meeting Ok, so I made all the safety arrangements, and a time and place were agreed upon. As I was getting ready, and on my way to meet him, I was more nervous than I had ever been in my life!! I was definitely excited, too, but I was a complete basket case! My Master had made plans for our first meeting that were more than I could deal with; He wanted more "scening" than I was ready for, and I let him know. I thought I was maybe letting him down, not being "sub" enough for him. Guess what---He was patient, understanding, and it was HE who reminded me that D/s is all about SAFE, SANE, AND CONSENSUAL. He did not pressure me to go farther than I was able or ready to go. Our first meeting ended up being more "getting to know each other" type of meeting, and I have to say, this is how I would recommend anyone to plan a first real-life encounter. Take the time to get to know each other, you will both be so much better off for it.
Our first meeting was very romantic, special, and I will treasure the memories of it forever. He had pink champagne on ice, and had everything planned and made me feel so very special.
Words cannot really describe how special our meeting was to me. The feelings that I experienced were so intense, so special and I will most definitely cherish the memories forever. It was so incredible to finally serve my Master, in real life, as his true slave. Just kneeling before him, real life, for the first time, was such an incredible rush! There are truly no words to describe how I felt to finally touch, kiss, and serve the Master that I love so much. Those 22 hours that we shared will be treasured by me always. I was so afraid, before the meeting, that I would be a disappointment to my Master, in real life; but he was so special in how he made absolutely certain that I knew that he felt just as special about our 22 hours as I did.
I just can't seem to find the words to describe how it felt to be, at last, kneeling before my Master, to just say "Yes, Master" to him in real life. His touch----it was like an electric shock, sent tingles all through my body. After our time together on Monday night, I couldn't wait to see him again Tuesday morning. When we met on Tuesday, I was much more comfortable, and was able to relax more and to truly serve him as his real slave. After spending a wonderful day together, we ended our time together with a "power nap" for a few minutes, and then a wonderful, romantic shower together. These memories will always hold a very special place in my heart. I love my Master, so much now, more than ever before.
If you do make the decision to "go real," all that I can do is ask that you PLEASE use your common sense and learn from the mistakes of others, to make your own first real-life meeting as special, and wonderful, as mine was.
