General Interests

I enjoy physical activities such as hiking, cycling, rollerblading (although I am not very adept at this), camping, fishing, and traveling. I cannot say that I am athletic and I suppose the only sport I enjoy would be swimming mostly because I do not tend to be competitive. The only sport I enjoy watching is hockey. I lost interest in all others years ago when the sport became more about money and fame then love of the game.
I tend to be a cerebral person who can go to a movie such as "Dogma" and spend the evening afterward discussing the finer points of the movie and connection to Christian mythology.
Although I have my own spiritual beliefs I am not a religious person, I enjoy discussing theology and my own personal experiences with spirituality.
Perhaps the most rewarding personal relationship was the first one I ever had. In high school I was with a man that thought much as I do and enjoyed talking about metaphysics, philosophy, spirituality, time and space, and life and death.
I like cooking and make a fantastic lasagna passed down to me from my step-mother.  I am adept at Italian, Mexican, and Californian cuisine. Although I am not necessarily the tidiest person, I enjoy cleaning and often use it to pull myself out of despairing thoughts. I find gardening rewarding as I have the opportunity to work with my hands and have something to show for afterwards
My favorite poet is Merrit Malloy; she has a style of writing that is to the point, candid, honest, and intimate.
My favorite musical artists instrumentally are Gary Lamb and Enya, while my favorite pop artists include Annie Lennox, Jewel, Sarah McLachlan, Duncan Sheik and Garbage among others. In country, my favorite artists include Reba McIntire and George Strait. I also enjoy live theater and like most people can really get lost in a good movie.
There are few animals I can think of that I do not like and find it funny that some people are "dog people" while others are "cat people". I am both. I enjoy children and I suppose this will be my only regret in life….that I never had any.


On Mating

I have been single for more years than I have been coupled and often do not exercise good judgment in my selection of men.  I no longer expect that I will find that one person with whom I can spend my life with, however, I never give up hope. I must believe that if I exist there must be in this world someone like me looking for me. But I refuse to "look" for him and know that if that everlasting relationship is to be a part of my life experience, than it will happen in it's own time.  In the meantime, I have much to accomplish with my life and am always open to my next experience.  What I look for in a life mate are qualities such as self-respect, respect of others, integrity, dignity, and the ability to take responsibility for his actions. My father has always been fond of saying that these are some of the qualities that define a man.  In addition to these qualities I would look for someone who is self aware and honest enough to see his faults and know that faults are not bad but are merely qualities that can be changed should he deem a need to change them. Someone who can be forgiving, understanding and patient. Communication is perhaps one of the most important qualities...and by communication I mean that the individual has the ability to express himself in a non-threatening atmosphere while giving equal time for me to do the same. There have been many things in my life that I have done that I am not proud of, and should I meet a man whom I believe to be worthy I would hope that he could understand my past while not judging my past actions. It is important for me to also feel connected as if he were a long lost appendage. (giggling).