This is the captioned text from a 20-20 interview about SI (self
mutilation). Due to possible triggering content, Please take care of you while
reading.
We're about to tell you about something shocking. It's called
self- mutilation. You may think you've never heard of it, but you'll be stunned
to learn how many people are doing it in secret.
We know
Princess Diana was one of them. In her now famous TV interview, she admitted
that at one point in her misery, she deliberately cut herself on the legs.
Unbelievably, as many as 2 million people in this country regularly hurt
themselves on purpose, cutting, burning, jabbing their own bodies, anything to
cause pain.
Why would
anyone do it? Tom Jarriel found, like anorexia self-mutilation is rooted in a
deep and overwhelming sense of worthlessness.
Reporter:
she appears to be the girl next door. Heintz, a 16-year-old high school
sophomore from Kansas, is pretty, sensitive and well-liked. She has loving
parents, Vicki and Wayne Heintz, an older sister, Darla and younger brother,
Ryan. Aside from the typical family struggles, life has always been good.
We're just
an average typical family. We're about as average as you can get.
Reporter: it's hard to believe then
that earlier this year, Talli Heintz came perilously close to taking her own
life.
I didn't
have a high self-esteem at all and I was really depressed. I didn't like the
way I looked. I didn't like anything.
Reporter:
her crisis began when Talli asked if she could get her belly button pierced, a
popular fashion trend with girls her age. Her mother forbade it, so in
defiance, Talli pierced it herself.
It just
made me feel so much better when I was done. Piercing it, it hurts, but it --
everything was okay then. I had control.
The feelings that I couldn't deal with inside of me become numb. It
helped to distract me from the emotional pain. It was the only outlet that I
had.
Reporter: for people who
self-injure, the physical pain becomes the release for their underlying often
unknown emotional. The decision to
self-mutilate is often at the spur of the moment.
Reporter:
this doctor routinely lectures about the treatment of self-mutilation. Why do
you feel it is very important to share your information with your peers and
with those who attend your lectures?
Well, because so many individuals
are harming themselves and are not knowing what to do about it. They're afraid
to tell people. They're afraid to come for treatment. And also there are many
therapists who if they encounter these individuals, might not really know what
to do.
This was a survival tool. This was
something that enabled me to live.
Reporter:
Shelley Goldberg, from New York City, has spent most of his life struggling
with this behavior.
I was about 12 or 13, and I started
to pick at my face. As the years
progressed, I started using all kinds of tweezers and things to get at
my face.
Reporter:
is the scar tissue on your face today totally from self-injury?
Yes, yes, it is.
Reporter:
have you discovered the emotional trigger that set off this problem for you?
I don't know. I guess it's just
hatred of oneself.
Reporter:
how frequently would you do this?
In the
beginning, I only did it like maybe once every week, but like the near the end
or the middle of it, I’d do it every day and usually more than once a day. Just whenever I’d have an emotion.
Reporter:
the emotions triggered it and you'd cut?
Yeah.
Reporter:
each episode became worse than the last, and over time, she had to make deeper
cuts to get the same relief of her emotional pain. By now, Tallie began to fear for her life. She knew she had to
stop cutting but couldn't. What was the
moment that you realized that you really needed help?
I was
really frustrated because I was in Spanish and I got my test back and I had
failed it. So I just asked to go use the restroom. And when I went there and I
cut myself, I mean, it just wouldn't stop bleeding. I mean, it just like
reality hit. This was a big problem.
Reporter:
in desperation, Tallie confided in a teacher who insisted that she confront her
parents and ask for help.
I was dumfounded. I was totally
confused and just couldn't understand why someone was going to cut themselves.
When I saw that Tallie was cutting herself, I would ground her. I didn't realize the realm of danger she was
in.
Reporter: became an outpatient at a
nearby hospital and began intensive therapy.
It got better for a while, like
right after I got out of the hospital, but then it just got so much worse. I
mean, the hospital I went to first, it didn't help me at all, I think.
Reporter: Vicki Heintz searched for
solutions and by chance learned about the rock creek center, a psychiatric
hospital near Chicago, which had a treatment program specifically designed to
help people like her, who self-injure.
Titled S.A.F.E., self-abuse finally ends, it's the only in-patient
program of its kind in the entire country.
Dr. Wendy Friedman-Lader is a psychologist and clinical director of the
program. She believes the behavior can
be addictive.
If you're
looking at addictions as an ability to run away from feeling and to numb, I
think it is very much like that.
Reporter:
I spoke with some patients about their self-injury. Emily, what happens? What
do you do to hurt yourself?
I do a lot of different things.
Reporter: tell me specifically how
you got that scar on your arm there.
This is from an iron.
Reporter: hot iron?
Right.
Reporter: Jan, I see scars, wounds
on your arms. Tell me what you do to inflict injury.
These
scars are from like household cleaning chemicals like oven cleaner or something
that's used to unclog a drain.
Reporter:
what's going through your mind as you prepare to go through self-injury?
I feel a
pressure up inside of me and I self-injure and it's kind of like a release of
the pressure.
Reporter: these injuries can be
serious and life threatening, but suicide is not usually the intention. Cynthia, have you ever done this with the
intention of killing yourself?
The
majority of self-injury episodes that I’ve had have just been to block out the
pain in my head.
Reporter:
Karen Conterio is the program's founder.
To sit across from the people you're dealing with and hear about acid
burns, to hear about cigarette burns, to hear about ice pick stabs, to hear
about razor slices, are these people kooks?
Are they mentally unstable?
I think they're desperate. I think
they're terribly desperate to find a way to cope and maybe to have people
listen.
Reporter: in the S.A.F.E. program,
patients are taught through intensive therapy to express their emotions in ways
other than self-injury.
I'm
looking for some information about cutting because I’ve been a cutter for many,
many, many years and I can't seem to be able to stop this kind of behavior.
Reporter: the S.A.F.E. program also
lists a toll-free information number, which enables them to help others who are
in that desperate state. They receive calls from all over the country. To date,
it is not understood exactly why some people, and not others, succumb to
hurting themselves. But at the New York
state psychiatric institute in New York City, psychologist Dr. Barbara Stanley
and psychiatrist Dr. Kevin Malone are looking for answers. For the first time,
they're trying to determine if self-mutilation may actually be a biological
disorder involving abnormal levels of the brain chemical serotonin.
What we
have found biochemically up to this point is that there are lower levels of
serotonin in people who self-mutilate compared to people who do not
self-mutilate.
Reporter:
as a result, the doctors are now conducting numerous studies using
anti-depressant medications and psychotherapy. Complete results are not
expected for at least a year. As for her, she's been on anti-depressant
medication since leaving the hospital and is no longer hurting herself. One of
the things she learned at the hospital was to deal with her emotions by writing
about them in a journal.
I don't
think I’ll ever be completely recovered.
I think I’ll always have thoughts about self-injury, but I don't have to
act on them. And I know that I can control them.
You mentioned Princess Diana did
this to herself. Why, in your opinion?
Princess
Diana expressed herself in the television interview. She said that earlier in
her marriage, she had such self-loathing. She was also bulimic. Part was to
hurt herself. Part of it was a call for attention. With maturity, with some
therapy she grew and got over that.
She came
out of it. That was fortunate.