Written by: Phyllis Ann Doros
Copyright � March 1, 1957
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The Big Old House

Louise + Phyllis -1935

       During the war, my Mother and I had an apartment in a large

house, which had been separated into rental units. At the front door,

we went up one flight of steps, turned left and entered our living

room, which also served as the bedroom, after we transformed the

studio couch into a bed. Beyond this versatile room was our kitchen.

Both were large, sunny rooms and we considered ourselves fortunate

to inhabit them. There were several drawbacks, however. Our ice-box

stood in the hall beside our apartment door, so it could be serviced

by the ice-man, when no one was home. It was bad enough to run from

the kitchen, through the living room, then out into the hall every

time we needed something from the cooler, but this unfortunate placement

also gave our neighbors the freedom to help themselves to anything

they wanted. The other disadvantage was the community bathroom,

shared by all the tenants, which was across the hall at the top

of the stairs.

       Our neighbors were, to say the least, colorful people.

       The only daughter of our land-lady lived right next door to us,

with her young husband. She and I were near the same age, so we

found many things in common. The interests, we shared, were fairly

acceptable past times for a woman of the world, such as she, married

and away from parental control. But many an eye brow raised when I,

a high school sophomore, Joined in these activities.

       I remember clearly the adventure she, her husband and I, undertook

to discover Just how high people can fly, when they are pretending

to be kites and their fuel is alcohol. The three of us sat at their

kitchen table as we carried on this experiment. The room grew fuzzier

and our spirits flew higher, until someone suggested taking a walk,

if we could proceed to the street, unattended. This required standing,

walking and descending the steps, while attempting to suppress our

silly giggles, but we were game. We needed the fresh air!

       Feeling no pain, we managed to float into the hall, where we

came face to face with the land-lady, who had come to visit the

happy newlyweds. Momentarily stunned at the sight of our condition,

she shook with rage, while her lips groped for fitting words of

condemnation. We took advantage of her temporary surprise, half

stumbling, half falling down the stairs in fear of our very lives.

Our fears were well founded, although somewhat out of proportion,

for the land-lady had earned her reputation of a fiery temper, a

roaring voice and a vocabulary befitting a rough and tumble sailor.

That was the one and only time I saw her speechless.

       At the other end of the hall lived Julie, a divorcee with two

small children. Julie was a secretary, who dressed with a style and

taste, I openly envied. Often, I wandered down to her end of the hall,

where we would visit over a cup of coffee. The topic of our discussions

was usually men. She told me about her dates and I hung on every

syllable. These chats were brightened even more, for a second reason.

During the course of our conversation, Julie would always offer

me a cigarette.

       Upstairs on the third floor lived Dolly, an elderly widow. With

a sparkle in her eyes and a quick, snappy sense of humor. Though

she used a cane to support her aging body, she moved at a lively,

alert pace. I listened, with delight, to the stories she told describing

her glamorous past. Mother was even more fascinated with her vivid

anecdotes. The two of them passed countless hours in what appeared

to be small talk, yet now and again, one would smile or nod in a

special way, as though they shared a private joke.

       While Julie worked, Dolly took care of her children. This produced

a constant friction between the two women, for they would argue about

Dolly�s wages, Julie's children and any other point on which they

Disagreed. This in turn, caused our intimate quarters to take on a

frigid atmosphere, for Mother insisted Dolly was in the right and

I was just as certain, that Julie could do no wrong. At times, we

carried this cool stubbornness out into the hall, where we wore it

with pride. Mother and I would raise our chins, straighten our shoulders

and go to our friends, who were on opposite sides, prepared to stand

in defense of our loyal comrades.

       There were also apartments on the first floor. In a housekeeping

room, reached by a side entrance, lived a midget. She was a friendly

girl in her late twenties, who mended hosiery in a ten cent store.

Sometimes, when I was in the back yard, she walked out on the porch

and we would exchange a few words over the rail. One day, for a reason

I have long since forgotten, she invited me into her room. It was a

pleasant room, decorated with the souvenirs, that any sentimental

woman might save. I had imagined her room filled with miniature furniture

and was disappointed to find everything of normal size. I noticed a

framed photograph on her dresser and bent to study it more closely.

It was a picture of a movie star! Under the handsome face, in large,

clear handwriting was an autograph, which read, �To my good friend,

Vivian, from Zachory Scott.� Here in the center of her universe, she

displayed her dearest possession, a picture of a famous man, personally

inscribed to her.

       I looked at the woman sitting on the edge of a straight back

chair, so her toes could touch the floor. I did not see a midget!

For the first time in all the months she had been living there, I saw a

Person. I saw an Individual with feelings and hopes and dreams, the

same as mine.

       I will never forget the time I spent, or the people I met under

the roof of that big, old house. The small, comical land-lord, who

saved money on repair bills by doing the work himself, although the

paint never seemed to dry and the plumbing took on weird noises and

numerous leaks. The friends, who relaxed in our apartment, grateful

for our hospitality and offered in return a deep, genuine companionship.

The old woman, who never grew old, because she moved with purpose and

Humor. The unsure bride, who was still dominated by her Mother. The

attractive divorcee, who had little chance to be gay, while she worked

to support her children. The midget, who was not deformed, where it

really counted, in her heart and in her mind.

       The lessons, these people taught me, were far greater than the

ones found in text books, as I went about the daily routine away from

home. These people were real. They were near and alive. Each in her

own way, showed courage and kindness and a faint touch of greatness.

Each was making a strong effort to understand and fit in to the little

slice of life, she had been handed.

       These people and others like them, are called the characters of

the world. They are accepted at face value, by most citizens as non-

conformists and feared as bad influences. But these people are my

wealth! They were my teachers and my confidants and my helping hands.

       They are my strength and my heritage. They will always be my

key to the true measure of a human beings worth.

       They whisper in my ear, with their distant, peculiar voices,

       "Don't Judge another, until you know her! Then you will realize,

it is not your place to pass judgment. Just accept her, as the person

she is - - And you will find something in her, that is good!�

Phyllis + Grandkids -1999


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