Written by: Phyllis Ann Doros
Copyright � Sept. 29, 1960
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What I Expect Out Of Life

Phyllis, Jim + Marty -1969

       There are many vague, intangible ideals I expect out of

life..  such as decency..  truth..  recognition..  pride..

       Like everyone else, I have fundamental beliefs which are

so deeply imbedded and complicated, they are nearly impossible

to describe.  The best explanation is to simply say: �This is me..�

       One day, when the children go wild with noisy activities,

I might think all I want out of life is a little peace and quiet.

       The next day I may decide to help my husband more in his

business.  Although I handle the office work, he is the one who

knows the worries and pressures.  He is the one who tells me:

�Why don�t you take the afternoon off?�  �.  But there is no

one to release him from the tiring schedule.

       The day after that I�m liable to be touched by a trace of

guilt and discover all I want is to be a good mother.

       Or I may make up my mind to be an efficient homemaker..

In which case my family might easily fall into a dangerous state

of shock.

       An overpowering ambition I have never been able to subdue,

is that of becoming a writer�.  And I know I will always devote

a great effort in this field, because writing is as much a part

of me..  as any instinct or streak of philosophy that makes up

my personality.

       There is no greater satisfaction than to do something well.

That is probably why I like to write.  I can write and re-write

and edit�  until I see on paper exactly the spirit I wish to

communicate�.  And if one other person understands�  and is

moved by my words�.  Then all the work has been worth-while.

       I suppose that is actually what I want out of life�.

Simply to do what I do�  the best way I can.

       I am here today, because I find my position in life to

be�.  a bit more that I�m entitled to.  It seems to me,

the prestige given to an active citizen and guiding parent..

should be earned by the actions and guidance of such a person�

by her sacrifice and example and interest�It should not be

handed to her.

       Naturally there are times when I feel mighty sorry for myself..

When I am momentarily convinced that I never came close to

getting one even break.

       But mostly there are times like now, when I realize the

exceptional fortune which has come to me and I feel obligated to

do something more than just be grateful.

       I have three healthy, mentally alert children..  A hard

working, generous husband..  A comfortable home..  I have loyal

friends..  The advantage of living in this fantastic country..

of voting..  Of meeting with educators and lenders on an equal

basis..  And yes, I�ve recently sold my first article to a magazine.

       To me, it would be pushing my luck to stand up here and say

I want further rewards merely because I exist.

       What do I expect out of life?  I expect laughter..  and

excitement..  and surprises, many of which will be disappointing..

possibly heart-breaking.

       I expect to see my children grow and be enthusiastic and

take on their responsibilities with more grace than I have been

able to summon�

       While all the time we remain comfortable with each other�

and proud of each other.

       And I expect to grow myself..  I have always been hungry for

education..  eager to share the world of books and teachings and

imaginative people.  Now that I have a second chance to study it,

my sense of adventure is aflame with the thrill..  the challenge.

       Perhaps I know the frustrations we talked about during our

earlier class.  If I do, it�s a good thing..  for this feeling

of inadequacy opens my mind�  fills it with questions�

and forces me to reason.

       What I really want out of life is to earn these things I

already have.

       What I expect out of life�  Is to be worthy of it!

Phyllis, Jim + Marty -1971


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