Journeying Alone in Submission

Why is it that Submissives feel they are not ~truly~ reveling in thier submission unless they are serving a Dominant? As my time in this community continues to pass, I notice more and more how submissives just coming into the ~lifestyle~ seem so eager to jump right over thier own time for self-growth and dive into a relationship without ever fully realizing what it means to be..submissive. I find that many wind up with broken hearts and broken trust because really, they've never really took the time to enjoy this new recognition..alone. Just because one realizes one day "I am submissive", it does not mean that it's all cut and dry..next step..Get a Dominant. There is so much to learn..so much to discover about ourselves and our Submission. Are you..have you..really taken the time to Journey alone and really reflect on what submission means to you? What you hope to accomplish on this Journey? What you really expect to get out of a D/s relationship? Have you..are you..taking the time to really reflect on what you ~Require~ ~YOUR~ Dominant to be? Have you thought of the qualities you want most? Or desire least? Have you..are you..aware of the qualities you can ~live with~ and the ones you simply cannot abide? Or like so many I see, are you jumping in and out of collars, burning your hands over and over when you realize that Perfect Dominant..is not so perfect? A Dominant should be asking you these same questions, a Dominant should have the deepest curiosity as to what it is you seek and desire, deeper than the most topical "Do you like the whip?" "What are your fantasies". He/She should be most curious about your experience, your level of knowledge...about yourself. What submission means to you, and how you want Their Dominance to enchance it. I realize in VT, it seems almost a silent peer pressure to attain a collar as quickly as possible, I am continually saddened by the lack of understanding between T/two as to what a collar should truly symbolize. That Y/you have been together, worked together to really understand what the O/other needs and seeks and have decided that there would be no better suited P/partner. A lasting relationship stands the test of time. Without a collar to *show* the world ..yes..I really am Submissive, I have a "Master" or I really am Dominant, I have a "sub".
Revel in your submission..take the time to really get to know yourself as a Submissive. Read, explore..talk to other submissives who've been involved for atleast a year or more..learn from them, listen to them when they tell you of mistakes they made early on. I can promise you, that most of them only have the best intentions at heart. There are reasons we urge you to go slow. If you do, I can promise you that the time spent alone, submerged in your own Submission will only prove to provide a more solid base for a lasting, loving relationship when you do finally recognize that "Perfect" One amid all the Would Be's.
Beautiful Journeys..