So if you have recently discovered you are Submissive, Dominant, Bottom or Top or even have a desire to be slave, depending on your locale or your nature, VT could be a great place for you to begin your explorations. Hopefully you will begin your Journey into this lifestyle by doing a lot of reading. I recommend going to CastleRealm, The Beginners Guide to D/s or Latches and The Power Exchange. There are others but I'm sure with those to start you'll be well on your way (And find a good deal of other great resource sites in the process).

Once you have read all you can and you can no longer stand the thought of Not going in, you find a chatsite that caters to T/those living or exploring BDSM and D/s. There are a few out there and I'm going to leave it up to ~you~ to choose the one that is right for you. However, no matter what site you choose there are many things to keep in mind. Not E/everyone you are going to encounter is on the up and up. Some are there for a quick *pick-up*, fast cybersex and have perfected thier ~line~ accordingly. Many have also mastered the art of nickname quick change. Once discovered as the Loser they truly are, quick as you know they are gone and have returned the next day as someone entirely *new*. You will come to recognize these people no matter how often they change thier names. Most people have a style of writing that is all thier own; Like a fingerprint thier style of writing never changes, and it is a dead giveaway when someone is constantly re-inventing themselves.

Each site you visit will most likely have a list of rules and protocols. In VT it has become an established custom to Cap the name of Dom/mes and for submissives to leave thier name lowercase. It just makes it easier in ~telling the difference~, however, this is not a rule set in stone and again it is ~your~ choice.

In VT at different sites your more likely than not to see other submissives/slaves *serving* a drink or a snack. It is up to you as to whether you offer to serve or not. There will be Dom/mes who expect this from submissives and if you choose not to offer to serve will most likely condemn you. Don't take it to heart. In VT it has been often debated and there is no one set answer. Go with how ~you~ feel not with how all the others around you may be acting. Serving can be a beautiful way to show off your creative writing skills and perhaps draw the eye of the certain Dom/me you've had your eye on. Don't expect to be as patently perfect in your serve as the girl/boy who just served before you, it takes time (Some also cheat a little and prewrite certain aspects of the serve and fill in the ~Name~ of Who they are serving).

You may also see many topics thrown out to the room for discussion. Discussions can become quite heated and many a time i've seen feelings hurt when O/one suddenly takes the conversation as a personal attack on them. I shied away from discussion for many months, quite sure I had nothing to add to all those wonderfully written opinions I was seeing. I was wrong. I have much to contribute as do ~you~. Don't be scared to speak your mind even if your opinion may vary from popular belief. You just might find that on that day ~you~ made the difference. *s* Discussion can also answer many of those burning questions yet unanswered or that you were to shy to bring up. Remember that all of your thoughts are valid and that ~E/everyone~ was new at one point. (Even if some like to forget that. *w*).

As I have said on other pages in this Site..~Take your time~. You will save yourself a world of hurt if you resist that urge to jump into a relationship with the first stern whip weilding Dom/me you come across. *ss* Watch. Learn. You will see many doing exactly as I am asking you not to. Relationships built on less than 2-3 hours together, a collar (see Collars for more detailed thoughts.)given/taken. Most of those relationships last an average (being generous here) of one month. If you are serious about what you have discovered about yourself, than it will not be so hard to take your time. You will find by waiting..when it does happen..when you do find that ~One~, the wait will have been well worth it.