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Society decides what is acceptable for the world to see, say, and do. "Freedom of speech" has been limited due to the way that society defines "freedom of speech". A website like this one is something that society doesn't want into existence, due to the truth that it shows to the world. If it were up to society, people like myself would be permanently remove from sight and mind. This website would be terminated if society could find a proper way to stop this website from existing.
Society is made of the people that you may or may not socialize with. Society is everyone that in the world, and most of these people is from an older generation than you. To have society work on your side for anything, you need to be sure that you don't cause society to question what you are doing. When society starts to question actions, society tends to refuse cooperation. This is how many of the smaller areas are becoming "Ghost Towns". With society unable to change with the world, society causes it's own defeat in the process.
Many of us have "skeletons in your closet" which you don't want people to find out about. These "skeletons" are in your past and have the ability to affect your future, if these "skeletons" are known to society. Many of us tend to forget how demanding society really is to keep "skeletons" out of sight. If a person was to look into his/her past, for any reason, society will tend to watch the person "like a hawk". When society feels that you could cause a lot of damage to the society around you, society will step in and stop you. When society feels threatened for any reason, society will lash out upon whomever may be the reason. This is the reason why "skeletons" will tend to stay hidden until they are accidentally released into society.
Many of us will keep a burden upon ourselves to not allow out "skeletons" to be known by society. A lot of the time we will keep these "skeletons" quiet enough that our families/friends do not know about them either. When a "skeleton" is kept away from everyone's eyes this much, it tends to be something that can be extremely destructive if seen by society. Most of the time society will cause you more pain & suffering if this type of "skeleton" is released, rather than having the "skeleton" kept out of sight. We all have "skeletons", and it just depends on how we can deal with them vs. society.
I know how people think about many "skeletons" that people try to keep out of society's sight. I have the type of "skeleton" that has begun to "rip me apart" because of how serious that the "skeleton" is and because of how much potential destruction that it has. This type of "skeleton", which I have referred to recently as "Pandora's Box", has the potential destruction that society tries to keep hidden from the younger generation of people. In the past, when I buried this "skeleton" in the back of my mind, I decided to protect society over my own well-being. This is the same reason why, currently, I am being "ripped apart at the seams".
My state of mental control over thoughts/memories, etc. is not in control any more. Where this "skeleton" has created my mind to be more like "Pandora's Box", I have been unable to trust people with my "skeleton". Thanks to the way that I know how society will react to my "skeleton" and the potential destruction that it will cause, I have been fighting a battle with myself what to do with my "skeleton". I know how my mind has become "Pandora's Box" and how it has started to destroy myself, and it shows me that society would suffer more. I have been fighting with myself whether society should know about this "skeleton", or should I just keep it quiet so that others won't get hurt.
With most "skeletons" there will be some pain and suffering, depending on the seriousness of the "skeleton" would determine how many people it would affect. There are also the "skeletons" that people are not ready to hear about, and will cause more pain and suffering than the person, who has the "skeleton", is willing to let happen. In the past, I buried this "skeleton" so that my family/friends could go through life without the repercussions of this "skeleton" and the way others in society would look at him/her. To protect my family/friends from the repercussions of this "skeleton", I put myself into a "depressed state". This allowed my family/friends to continue his/her lives without unneeded "crap" from other people. I have been told that it is honorable/noble for me to sacrifice myself for other people.
When you have some knowledge of potential destruction and repercussions of a "skeleton", many people will not stop to think what will happen to others if the "skeleton" is released. There are very few people that would use the knowledge of potential destruction and repercussions of a "skeleton" as a deciding tool to see what to do next. It is sad to say that there are people that will "make fun of" (tease/taunt) people when something so serious is released into the public's eyes. These people that do the "teasing/taunting" of others, are the reason for many "skeletons" not to be seen by society. These people are also the reason why my "skeleton" was never released, in the past. If I had released this "skeleton" into society, my family/friends would have suffered too much for me to allow.
Currently, I am in a loss when it comes to know what to do. I have begun to end my depressed state, however for me to completely end it I will have to face the "skeleton" that I buried in the past. This "skeleton" has already transformed my mind into "Pandora's Box" because of how I feel I need to protect others from this "skeleton" and the reality that society will need to know the "skeleton" for it to finally be over with. Unfortunately for me to conquer this "skeleton", society will need to know what I have hidden for so long. In doing so many of my family/friends will suffer in the process. As I felt in the past that I needed to protect them, I still feel the need to protect them. I am in an endless battle, which I feel that there is no end. So you can see how my mind has become "Pandora's Box". For me to get rid of this "skeleton" I need to case everyone pain and suffering. This is not something I am willing to do. I will sacrifice myself before I allow such pain and suffering.
Society has the power to case unneeded pain and suffering to everyone. The more that society tries to control everyone's lives and keep the serious stuff that exists in the world away from the younger generations, the more that the younger generations are unprotected from the real world. I know that if I allow my "skeleton" to be known by society, my family/friends will suffer; however the younger generation will be exposed to a truth that exists in the world. There is no real way to protect everyone, and there is no real way that I can stop this type of bad thing to happen. The problem is when you are unable to decide what to do. If a person did what I did in the past that was to hide from the "skeleton", then the person chooses to have the hurt/suffering of the "skeleton" rather than others to have it. This may seem honorable/noble, however it is also not facing the problem.
I have seen the damage that a "skeleton" can do that is like mine. The "skeleton" has the ability to destroy families/friends and cause people to treat you differently. People will do this because society will say that you are no longer "normal", so society will find a way to keep you "distant" from "normal" people. The problem with this is that when society does something like this, it causes people to not come forward about this type of thing. There is the fear to be singled-out by society and treated as if the "skeleton" is your fault and is not a "normal" thing to have happened. It is cruel/sad for me to say such a thing, but it is the truth.
Until the day that society is willing to see the dangers of the world, and see that these dangers are all around them, people will have great difficulties coming forward about any wrong doing. I am one of the many people that are unsure how to decide what is right vs. what should be done. To protect other people from the truth or to show what the world is really like, are things that everyone is faced with every day. Society has many of the older generations that will "joke" about some of the more serious things that society is not willing to show, however problems arise when those people "joke" around those people that have experienced what is being "joked" about. Many people in society do not want to see such things, that are being "joked" about, come true however society should realize that too much protection can cause these things to find you.
To try to protect the young from the truth of the world, is just like giving the world free ability to attack the young. Many young people will know that certain things are wrong, and many of them will take advantage society's fears. For example, if a sixteen-year-old girl doesn't like her mother's new boyfriend, the girl can say to someone that the mother's boyfriend touched her. Although the sixteen-year-old would be lying to get rid of the boyfriend, society will see the boyfriend as the problem. Society will not see that the sixteen-year-old was lying, and there is no real way to prove it especially where 80% of the time it is the boyfriend that is doing something wrong. Society needs to look long and hard at what it has become. Society has no real control, other than the fears it puts into people.
When society makes things like "abuse" a "toxic" thing to have brought to the public's eyes, it shows how much society hasn't changed any. If anyone comes forward about an "abuse" case, no matter the victim, the abuser and the victim will become "toxic" to society. Society wants things like "abuse" to disappear, however is unwilling to protect any victims when he/she comes forward. Having abusers be convicted and serve no time shows that society is unwilling to take "abuse" cases seriously enough. As more time passes after an "abuse" case has happened, there becomes less evidence that any "abuse" has happened. Where society treats the victims and abusers the same way, many people do not come forward about "abuse" and make the "abuse" become a "skeleton in the closet". This needs to change, but society is unwilling to change.
It is my belief that anyone that suffers from "abuse" should always come forward when it happens. The more people that are able to do this will force society to treat "abuse" as a serious problem, and not something that should be hidden from people. These things happen however society refuses to allow people to see that it can happen anywhere. In saying that, my "skeleton" revolves around this subject. Although my "skeleton" revolves around the "abuse" subject, to protect my family/friends, I am unable to come forward with it. Where it was so long ago, and it would be my word against other(s), I am not willing to put my family/friends through that type of situation. When something of this magnitude happens is when it is time to come forward. As it has been said, the longer you wait, the less evidence that exists.
"Pandora's Box" will not close today, and it may never close ever for me. I wish that you all take a long hard look at yourselves and how society really is, when you read the stuff that is on this website. To have such pain/suffering go through anyone is wrong, and those that should pay for his/her wrong doings should always pay. When society realizes that singling-out people (victims or attackers) when things like "abuse" come up, is not the way to treat these situations. Where society doesn't really show any compassion towards the victims of an attack, society is showing that they do not want to know that the bad things exist closer than what people feel he/she does. Society's look on life is the problem and until society treats things like "abuse" differently, things like "abuse" will never go away.