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01-19-04 · 01-22-04 · 05-06-04 ·
There are many things that wrong in the world today. Many of these things exist because society refuses to believe that they exist. It is a painful truth when you look at the problems of the world. The laws that mankind have created to be a guide have been adjusted to help those people that are affected by the problems of the world. The main problem is that no matter how much the laws are adjusted, it won't change anything until society is willing to see that the problems exist. Society knows that the problems exist, however the truth of the matter is that society turns a "blind-eye" to the problems. To turn a "blind-eye" to the problems is just another way to say that the problems do not exist. I am one of the people in the society that use to think similar to this. I always believed that these problems would never catch up to anyone that I know, however I was wrong. People really don't look at the problems of the world until they affect you somehow.
The reason that society doesn't seem to care about the problems of the world is because society, as a whole, believes that if you don't look at the problems that the problems will not affect you in any way. This way of thinking is the exact reason why the problems of the world still exist today. Different generations have different experiences in his/her lives. From the start there has always been bullies in the school systems, violence across the world, and assaults of different kinds. These things still exist today because society refuses to accept that these things exist, and until society accepts these things they will exist forever.
There has been a figure that has been tossed out into the world about abuse cases. One in four children are abused, whether it is physical abuse or sexual abuse, that is the figure that has been presented. When society looks at an abuse case, society will only see these things happening in bigger areas such as cities. Society believes that the abuse cases do not happen in rural areas, and this is why abuse cases are not seen when they happen. I know of this because I thought the same way until recently. I had experienced a form of sexual abuse in my past, however never really tried to confront my feelings over it until recently. A friend had talked to me about his/her past, and then I spoke about my past. The problem is that, in the past, I just shutdown from people around me and refused to confront the problem. Sadly it was the primary reason for going into a depressed state. I had a relationship after the abuse however when that relationship went "south", I went into a depressed state that I am just coming out of. The failed relationship was the "final nail in the coffin" for me and I just "shutdown", and kept people at a distance from me.
I didn't think I needed to confront my feelings about the past because I didn't really realize that it was part of the reason I went into the depressed state, until now. The really sad part is the fact that I am a friend, still, with the one that abused me, and I do not understand how a friendship can survive something like that. There is no one other than myself and the other person that knew that it happened because I didn't want it known by the public that it had happened. I was embarrassed that I didn't know any better, and also I thought that everyone had to go through something like that at that age. I was wrong and am having problems understand the emotions I feel about that situation, especially where that person and I are friends (like family).
Where society doesn't want to see something like this come out in public, society has made it seem that these things don't exist. When something like this does come out in the public's eye, society ridicules the victim of the assault more than the abuser. This causes people to refuse to come forward when the abuse happens. No matter the person, having abuse happen to them is terrifying, and having the public ridicule you for it is worse. So thanks to the way that society looks at matters like this, people that are abused are "damned if you tell, and damned if you don't". Sad to say, but it is the truth.
Society has to learn that bad things always happen, whether you are prepared to accept them or not. It is difficult to prepare yourself for such a thing to happen, and more difficult to live with yourself after such a thing happens to you. Many family members will try to take sides when the abuse happens within the family. The unfortunate part is that if the abuse happened within the family, there is more than one person that it has happened to. The innocence of many have been destroyed thanks to abuse, and until stuff like this is properly looked at by society there will be many more innocence lost to abuse. It is time that society takes a hard look at how the world really is because these problems will not go away by themselves. Many people lose the ability to trust anyone when he/she has experienced any form of abuse.
When society singles out people that have experienced abuse, especially sexual abuse, it causes the victim to second guess everything that he/she does. When the victim finally emits to the abuse, society has a tendency to look at the victim differently. The main question that society wanders is whether that victim will continue the cycle onto another innocent person. In physical abuse victims there seems to have an endless cycle, however in sexual abuse victims the cycle can go either way. I personally do not know how a person is able to continue the cycle of the abuse onto the next generation because it isn't right to continue such harmful things onto another person. To do such a thing is wrong, and should never happen. The problem is that there are some people that do not feel that way. Society has yet to fix these problems because society refuses to accept that no one is safe from any form of abuse.
In society's eyes, abuse only happens to families that have a history of the abuse. Also society feels that abuse cases will be isolated and not have a true affect on the public. With this type of thinking, abuse will be around until the end of time. With the number being one out of four children being abused, I still cannot understand how society treats abuse cases the way that they do. The loss of innocents that comes from abuse should be on the minds of everyone in society. With the way that society looks upon abuse cases it is a wonder that the numbers aren't higher. As it stands most of society believes that physical abuse will happen to males, and the sexual abuse will happen to females. The different abuses should never be categorized in such a way, however this is how society looks upon it.
When a person comes forward to say that he/she was abused, society will automatically believe that the abuse was physical. For some reason society feels more comfortable accepting physical abuse over sexual abuse. This is especially true when a male comes forward about abuse. Everyone's first thought is physical abuse because it is more accepted by society to have a male physically abuse. When it is seen as sexual abuse, society will watch the male because it is believed that males will continue the cycle of abuse. Society needs to realize that no matter the sex of the person, the cycle of abuse needs to be stopped. Until society is willing to emit that the abuse exists everywhere, and the fact that most abuse isn't reported (such as mine). Abuse is not identified by society as something that everyone has a chance to experience; abuse is identified as something that very few people will experience. This is the problem and until it is fixed, abuse will be around until the end of time.
Society decides what is acceptable for the world to see, say, and do. "Freedom of speech" has been limited due to the way that society defines "freedom of speech". A website like this one is something that society doesn't want into existence, due to the truth that it shows to the world. If it were up to society, people like myself would be permanently remove from sight and mind. This website would be terminated if society could find a proper way to stop this website from existing.
Society is made of the people that you may or may not socialize with. Society is everyone that in the world, and most of these people is from an older generation than you. To have society work on your side for anything, you need to be sure that you don't cause society to question what you are doing. When society starts to question actions, society tends to refuse cooperation. This is how many of the smaller areas are becoming "Ghost Towns". With society unable to change with the world, society causes it's own defeat in the process.
Many of us have "skeletons in your closet" which you don't want people to find out about. These "skeletons" are in your past and have the ability to affect your future, if these "skeletons" are known to society. Many of us tend to forget how demanding society really is to keep "skeletons" out of sight. If a person was to look into his/her past, for any reason, society will tend to watch the person "like a hawk". When society feels that you could cause a lot of damage to the society around you, society will step in and stop you. When society feels threatened for any reason, society will lash out upon whomever may be the reason. This is the reason why "skeletons" will tend to stay hidden until they are accidentally released into society.
Many of us will keep a burden upon ourselves to not allow out "skeletons" to be known by society. A lot of the time we will keep these "skeletons" quiet enough that our families/friends do not know about them either. When a "skeleton" is kept away from everyone's eyes this much, it tends to be something that can be extremely destructive if seen by society. Most of the time society will cause you more pain & suffering if this type of "skeleton" is released, rather than having the "skeleton" kept out of sight. We all have "skeletons", and it just depends on how we can deal with them vs. society.
I know how people think about many "skeletons" that people try to keep out of society's sight. I have the type of "skeleton" that has begun to "rip me apart" because of how serious that the "skeleton" is and because of how much potential destruction that it has. This type of "skeleton", which I have referred to recently as "Pandora's Box", has the potential destruction that society tries to keep hidden from the younger generation of people. In the past, when I buried this "skeleton" in the back of my mind, I decided to protect society over my own well-being. This is the same reason why, currently, I am being "ripped apart at the seams".
My state of mental control over thoughts/memories, etc. is not in control any more. Where this "skeleton" has created my mind to be more like "Pandora's Box", I have been unable to trust people with my "skeleton". Thanks to the way that I know how society will react to my "skeleton" and the potential destruction that it will cause, I have been fighting a battle with myself what to do with my "skeleton". I know how my mind has become "Pandora's Box" and how it has started to destroy myself, and it shows me that society would suffer more. I have been fighting with myself whether society should know about this "skeleton", or should I just keep it quiet so that others won't get hurt.
With most "skeletons" there will be some pain and suffering, depending on the seriousness of the "skeleton" would determine how many people it would affect. There are also the "skeletons" that people are not ready to hear about, and will cause more pain and suffering than the person, who has the "skeleton", is willing to let happen. In the past, I buried this "skeleton" so that my family/friends could go through life without the repercussions of this "skeleton" and the way others in society would look at him/her. To protect my family/friends from the repercussions of this "skeleton", I put myself into a "depressed state". This allowed my family/friends to continue his/her lives without unneeded "crap" from other people. I have been told that it is honorable/noble for me to sacrifice myself for other people.
When you have some knowledge of potential destruction and repercussions of a "skeleton", many people will not stop to think what will happen to others if the "skeleton" is released. There are very few people that would use the knowledge of potential destruction and repercussions of a "skeleton" as a deciding tool to see what to do next. It is sad to say that there are people that will "make fun of" (tease/taunt) people when something so serious is released into the public's eyes. These people that do the "teasing/taunting" of others, are the reason for many "skeletons" not to be seen by society. These people are also the reason why my "skeleton" was never released, in the past. If I had released this "skeleton" into society, my family/friends would have suffered too much for me to allow.
Currently, I am in a loss when it comes to know what to do. I have begun to end my depressed state, however for me to completely end it I will have to face the "skeleton" that I buried in the past. This "skeleton" has already transformed my mind into "Pandora's Box" because of how I feel I need to protect others from this "skeleton" and the reality that society will need to know the "skeleton" for it to finally be over with. Unfortunately for me to conquer this "skeleton", society will need to know what I have hidden for so long. In doing so many of my family/friends will suffer in the process. As I felt in the past that I needed to protect them, I still feel the need to protect them. I am in an endless battle, which I feel that there is no end. So you can see how my mind has become "Pandora's Box". For me to get rid of this "skeleton" I need to case everyone pain and suffering. This is not something I am willing to do. I will sacrifice myself before I allow such pain and suffering.
Society has the power to case unneeded pain and suffering to everyone. The more that society tries to control everyone's lives and keep the serious stuff that exists in the world away from the younger generations, the more that the younger generations are unprotected from the real world. I know that if I allow my "skeleton" to be known by society, my family/friends will suffer; however the younger generation will be exposed to a truth that exists in the world. There is no real way to protect everyone, and there is no real way that I can stop this type of bad thing to happen. The problem is when you are unable to decide what to do. If a person did what I did in the past that was to hide from the "skeleton", then the person chooses to have the hurt/suffering of the "skeleton" rather than others to have it. This may seem honorable/noble, however it is also not facing the problem.
I have seen the damage that a "skeleton" can do that is like mine. The "skeleton" has the ability to destroy families/friends and cause people to treat you differently. People will do this because society will say that you are no longer "normal", so society will find a way to keep you "distant" from "normal" people. The problem with this is that when society does something like this, it causes people to not come forward about this type of thing. There is the fear to be singled-out by society and treated as if the "skeleton" is your fault and is not a "normal" thing to have happened. It is cruel/sad for me to say such a thing, but it is the truth.
Until the day that society is willing to see the dangers of the world, and see that these dangers are all around them, people will have great difficulties coming forward about any wrong doing. I am one of the many people that are unsure how to decide what is right vs. what should be done. To protect other people from the truth or to show what the world is really like, are things that everyone is faced with every day. Society has many of the older generations that will "joke" about some of the more serious things that society is not willing to show, however problems arise when those people "joke" around those people that have experienced what is being "joked" about. Many people in society do not want to see such things, that are being "joked" about, come true however society should realize that too much protection can cause these things to find you.
To try to protect the young from the truth of the world, is just like giving the world free ability to attack the young. Many young people will know that certain things are wrong, and many of them will take advantage society's fears. For example, if a sixteen-year-old girl doesn't like her mother's new boyfriend, the girl can say to someone that the mother's boyfriend touched her. Although the sixteen-year-old would be lying to get rid of the boyfriend, society will see the boyfriend as the problem. Society will not see that the sixteen-year-old was lying, and there is no real way to prove it especially where 80% of the time it is the boyfriend that is doing something wrong. Society needs to look long and hard at what it has become. Society has no real control, other than the fears it puts into people.
When society makes things like "abuse" a "toxic" thing to have brought to the public's eyes, it shows how much society hasn't changed any. If anyone comes forward about an "abuse" case, no matter the victim, the abuser and the victim will become "toxic" to society. Society wants things like "abuse" to disappear, however is unwilling to protect any victims when he/she comes forward. Having abusers be convicted and serve no time shows that society is unwilling to take "abuse" cases seriously enough. As more time passes after an "abuse" case has happened, there becomes less evidence that any "abuse" has happened. Where society treats the victims and abusers the same way, many people do not come forward about "abuse" and make the "abuse" become a "skeleton in the closet". This needs to change, but society is unwilling to change.
It is my belief that anyone that suffers from "abuse" should always come forward when it happens. The more people that are able to do this will force society to treat "abuse" as a serious problem, and not something that should be hidden from people. These things happen however society refuses to allow people to see that it can happen anywhere. In saying that, my "skeleton" revolves around this subject. Although my "skeleton" revolves around the "abuse" subject, to protect my family/friends, I am unable to come forward with it. Where it was so long ago, and it would be my word against other(s), I am not willing to put my family/friends through that type of situation. When something of this magnitude happens is when it is time to come forward. As it has been said, the longer you wait, the less evidence that exists.
"Pandora's Box" will not close today, and it may never close ever for me. I wish that you all take a long hard look at yourselves and how society really is, when you read the stuff that is on this website. To have such pain/suffering go through anyone is wrong, and those that should pay for his/her wrong doings should always pay. When society realizes that singling-out people (victims or attackers) when things like "abuse" come up, is not the way to treat these situations. Where society doesn't really show any compassion towards the victims of an attack, society is showing that they do not want to know that the bad things exist closer than what people feel he/she does. Society's look on life is the problem and until society treats things like "abuse" differently, things like "abuse" will never go away.
There are many things wrong in the world today. For everything that is wrong in the world today, society can be blamed for a higher percentage of them. Society can be blamed because everything happens depending on how society reacts to each situation. Society as a whole, causes more problems in the world than any one person can do on his/her own.
Society has the power to influence things, and cause others undue pain & suffering. I have begun to notice this a lot lately. I have begun to notice the influence that society has over people because society seems to be trying to control a situation dealing with a friend of mine and me. Some of the people in society know that I am gong through a difficult time in my life, however they still don't want to see me in the condition that I have been in lately. Society is trying to remove the ability for me to be in public at certain locations. This is as if these people do not wish to confront me, so they go around me to force me to disappear out of sight.
I found out about how society has begun to influence the businesses that I am around during the week. The businesses have been told by society that they do not want to see me around certain employees (my friends) at his/her businesses. This all has been told to me as of last night, through the channels that I normally don't use to find information. There is one certain business that has requested me to spend no more than 45 minutes to 1 hour at his/her business for any given day. I am not the only one, however this is something that society has influenced to force to happen.
Many people in society are use to seeing me as a person that is friendly, and a private person. Now these people are seeing me as still a friendly person, however I am more open to talk to people. This is something that a lot of people aren't prepared to allow me to be. There are some that know that I am preparing for a war that can/will be damaging to the community, and it seems that those people especially want me to be out of sight. Society has the power to do whatever they want to do, however for the situations like mine it can be very destructive to influence others in the forms that he/she has been influenced in.
I have become a different person than I use to be in the past. I have become a person that is more defensive when it comes to protecting those I care for (friends/family). I have become a better person, as a whole, because of the amount that I will socialize with other people. I am different in the way that I will not put up with a lot of "crap" from others, and I really don't care where it happens. I am different because I refuse to allow my depression to run my life any more. Where society wants to keep things in a "safe environment", society will do many things that are right in society's eyes however are wrong in everyone else's eyes.
The ability to socialize with other people, may they be friends or not, is a choice that we all have. Society seems to think that the socializing ability can be restricted if society requires it to be. There is something that society needs to learn, and that is that when someone feels like he/she is cornered the person will react out. For some the reaction can be a physical outbreak, however for me the reaction would be to engage into a war prematurely. This is something that society doesn't need/want to happen, but the more that society tries to remove me from sight the more I feel like I am being cornered. This will not end well.
For every business that exists, there is always a bit of gossip that appears. When the gossip involves employees and the friendships with those employees, the business is forced to make a decision. Most businesses have been able to say that the personal business of an employee doesn't have anything to deal with the business itself. Unfortunately there are a few businesses that cannot enforce that same saying. There are some businesses that try to be involved in the lives of the employees, and when this happens a conflict of interests does happen. When the customers feel that he/she has the right to complain about the company (friends) that an employee has, the employee is being attacked in a direct manner. I see this happening, and when I find out whom it is that are doing the complaints, I will give him/her a real piece of my mind. God help them because I have no mercy in my eyes towards those people.
Society needs to learn that the world is not the perfect place that it wants people to believe in. The world is full of bad things, and the more that the evils of the world are hidden the more of an impact that these evils will have on people's lives. Society feels that it is protecting its people when it hides the evils of the world from everyone, however society is just crippling everyone instead. When there is no knowledge of the evils that exist, the evils have the power to destroy anyone that the evil comes across. Society needs to be taught a lesson about life because society is destroying itself in the end, with this way of life.
Through time there will be many changes in the way that life is perceived. Life will always have ups and downs; however being able to continue on is the key through it all. We will have a time that society will be seen as the true evil that exists in the world. When society is finally realized as the true evil, many people will be able to start his/her own lives. Life is precious and life is challenging at the time. We all will go through things in our lives that society doesn't want to have seen, however we will still go through those things. We have the power to control our own lives, however society will be involved when your life is seen in the public's eye. To finally defeat society, we must choose to ignore whatever society says, without destroying ourselves in the process.
We have times that society does help us, however I have yet to be able to see that myself. I can only see the negative things that society seems to do and bring out in each of us. We have always been a pawn in society's control. Each of us have no direct power until we finally challenge society as a whole. Society has seen me as a powerful ally in the past, however society is beginning to realize that I will become a power enemy in the future. Society seems to be trying to remove me from sight because society knows that I am no longer a pawn any more. I have begun to realize things in my life that shouldn't be, and now I am fighting against them. This is something that Society is not prepared for, and also doesn't know how to recover from it.
Society always has enemies among the people that society controls. Those enemies can be anyone, you, or me. There will always be those that want to harm others. We see the destruction of people all of the time, and we will continue to see it because we are unwilling to change the world. Society has the control to end the suffering, however will not because it is a form of control that society has over its people. We all have to deal with similar things in our lives, but no one really wants any help from anyone else because society truly frowns upon that. Society will frown upon that type of help because it is a power struggle to keep people in order. When one person helps another, without society's permission, then society loses some control over those people.
I am in a dangerous game of life right now. I have many people that want me to stay the way I was in the past, so that he/she can hide from the obstacles of life. I have been introducing problems to people because I have been fighting against those problems. When a person puts up a fight, like I have, that society fears then the person (like me) becomes a threat to society. I have begun to notice how much society prefers me to be the lonely, unemotional, shy, and weak person that I was always in the past. I am no longer that person because I have begun to fight my depression. Society seems to feel safer with me in a depression because the depression would only affect me and no one else. Now I have the chance to involve the whole community in a war that society doesn't want to see.
I know about the dangers that exist in my life. I see those dangers all the time. I know that there are a lot of people that see me as a dangerous person. I also know that many people see me as someone that has become something more than my own reputation had me to be. I have become someone that is willing to stand up for myself, and any of my friends that need my help. I have become exactly the opposite of my reputation because I have the need to fight now. I have always tried to stay neutral, regardless of what life through at me. When society saw no problem with me being in a depression, I saw no need to fight it. I have learned to think about myself and fight for myself. These things are what society considers dangerous with me.
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