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Many relationships take a lot of time to create. Whether the relationship is something serious or just friends, the relationship takes time for it to happen. There are some people that jump into a serious relationship a little too soon for his/her own good. This happens all of the time, especially if one of the people just ended a serious relationship and is on the "rebound". The person on the "rebound" has his/her judgment, impaired slightly, because of the emotions that are involved in the ending of the relationship.
Many people learn to regret having "back to back" relationships because he/she would be in the "rebound" phase for the initial part of the second relationship. This happens all the time because no one likes being alone when trying to "get over" the ended relationship. The amount of emotions that a person will feel, regardless of the situation behind the end of the relationship, are greater than anyone should go through. It is awful to hear about an ended relationship, and worse still when it involves yourself somehow.
My sister has just had this happen to her. With the relationship ending, just after a serious snowstorm, she hasn't been having a good turn recently. I am partially glad that the relationship has ended because I got a "vibe" from the guy that was good. I got the "vibe" that he was just with her to see what he could get from her. With the latest snowstorm my sister lost power on one day and the next day helped someone shovel his/her vehicle out of the snow. My sister had a "petty" fight with this guy during the start of the week. This guy was saying that my sister was ignoring him, and he wanted to know why. For those two days she had a good reason for not talking to him, and with the amount he was "messaging her" I can understand why it has ended.
The type of relationship that my sister was in was one that people should try to avoid. The relationship was the guy feeling like he was possessive to the girl (my sister), which means that the guy is nothing but a jerk. One of my sister's friends was using her my sister's computer to talk with someone else on the "ICQ" program, while this guy was sending messages for my sister. My sister's friend told the guy that my sister had just gone for a walk, however this guy didn't let up. Fortunate for this guy, my sister's friend wouldn't let me talk/type something to him because I would have told him to go straight to hell. Unfortunately this guy didn't take the hint to leave her alone, and she had to end the relationship because of this guy's dumb-wittedness.
It is good to see my sister show some intelligence when it comes to her personal well-being. I say this because no guy has the right to harass any female regardless of the relationship. I would feel the same way even if this type of this happened to someone that was not a relative. When guys start to become possessive like this guy was being, it is time for the guy to get a shot of reality. This type of thing should never happen, however for that to happen the world would have to be perfect. We all know that the world is not perfect, and for those of you that believe that it is, you should read my thoughts more closely on this site.
Relationships are complicated all the time. When two people are "just friends", the two people are able to become closer because there is no "sexual tensions" between the two. The reason for this is because neither one of the people are thinking in the "boyfriend/girlfriend" state of mind when he/she starts to become close with the other person. To other people of the public when these two people are seen together, the public will think that he/she are a couple because of how close the two seem to be. In many cases it is true that two that are really close would be dating, however that doesn't mean that all the time.
For any relationship to exist there needs to be a form of trust between two people. This trust determines the friendship that these two people would have together. The relationship becomes more complicated when one of these people have a difficult past that he/she is not proud of. Regardless of the person, the situation could be worse than what anyone could dream of. Every person deals with his/her past differently, some of us will face the past and the rest of us will hide from our past. Not everyone is ready to deal with the skeletons in our closets, and for those that are ready I can honestly say that I have a lot of respect for you. I am one of those people that have a past but do not have the courage/ability to face that past.
When a person takes that type of "baggage" into a relationship, the relationship has a chance to not succeed. It is sad to say however it is the truth. No matter the relationship, if you are unwilling to share your past the relationship is being built up on lies. Lies tend to hurt people after time, and in any relationship lies tend to cause more pain than anything else you could do. When the trust is built good enough in a relationship a person can become comfortable (trust you enough) to tell you some of his/her past. Your response to his/her past will become crucial depending on the person. If you try to make a joke out of it, in other words you can't believe what he/she is saying and you don't want to hear it, you will lose a great amount of trust with this person.
No matter how serious the situation is for the person that is confiding in you, it will hurt the relationship if you are unwilling to hear about the past. Although the person telling you the past may be unwilling to go into details, it will show you how much trust that he/she has in you if you just listen. If you choose to not listen to him/her when he/she is trying to tell you something, you will lose the trust that he/she thought that he/she had with you. All relationships are different however there are many things that are constant. These things are constant because these are common sense.
In my experience listening to a person, regardless of what type of relationship you have with him/her, is necessary to earn some trust from that person. When you are able to be open with a person you will earn some more trust with the person. When a person is open to you, he/she seems to trust you with the information that he/she is about to tell you. If you are having a serious relationship with this person when he/she opens up to you, you have a higher chance to respond properly with the person. When you feel close to a person, it will always show to other people. When you get too close to the person, you have a chance to invade his/her personal space. If you invade a person's personal space, you have a high chance to get "yelled at" because of this. Whether your intensions were accidental or on purpose, you will be "yelled at" the same. A person's personal space is the person's comfort zone. If you invade that comfort zone, the person is no longer comfortable around you.
Relationships are always complicated because emotions/moods change all of the time. If one person seems to not have a steady mood change, then he/she will become unpredictable. The unpredictable actions that he/she will do will cause people around him/her to be on the defense. People will go on the defensive because the unpredictable person could start to attack anyone that is around him/her. This can become annoying to some because he/she could do nothing to this person and still get attacked. The best way to overcome this type of change is by having the person trust you enough. If the trust isn't there, you will become a victim of an attack (of sorts).
Friendships are necessary for any relationship to work. To have the friendship, you will need trust. To have the amount of trust that comes from friendships, you will be able to conquer anything together in a relationship. At some point there will always be someone that wants to take the friendship to the next level, however it may be too soon for the other person. Until both people are at the same level, no friendship can transform into a serious relationship without consequences. I hope that I will have the chance to experience that type of change at some point in my life, however I do not have the proper mental understanding to even consider the change at this current time.
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