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It is difficult to do the right thing when many others around do the wrong thing. It is also difficult to "turn a blind eye" to things that your friends do to other people. When you are forced to decide between friends, your mind becomes torn between those friends that are requesting you to choose sides. Many times you are able to stay neutral because you can agree with all sides involved. There are times that you will have to choose sides because you will agree with one side, and disagree with the other side. When you do this, you could cause a problem with the friend that you are choosing against.
The mind will become torn between friends when you have your friends fighting between each other. You will feel the need to help your friends but not take sides. This can become tricky depending on the situation. Many times people will over-react to a situation, which causes problems between friends. It is sad to see good people fight among each other, and for you to be the referee between them.
When you have friends that start doing something that you don't believe is right, you will tend to suggest to not doing it. Many times your friends will use "peer-pressure" to have you do the wrong thing too. When you do not stand up for what you believe in, you tend to make others feel that he/she can push you around whenever he/she feels like it. This can get dangerous for you when it comes to a situation that you actually "fight back". Many times people will threaten you and believe that you will not go against him/her, however there are times that you will have to be willing to sacrifice the friendship to do the right thing.
I have been introduced into a situation that many people have his/her different opinions about. I have been told by some to "turn a blind eye" to the situation. I have also been told to ignore the situation and it will go away. It is interesting when people say that you should stand up for what you believe in, however when you feel it is time people tell you to stay out of it. I have been introduced to some prejudice that a group of friends (and the community) has against a friend (and his/her family) of mine.
I have been introduced into this dispute because one person in the group decided that I was getting to close to the friend, and decided to do a verbal attack (threat) towards me to have me end the friendship with the person. The verbal attack was an uncalled for attack, and now I have been forced to take sides in a prejudicial fight that I didn't know was happening. I have never been prejudice, and I plan to never be that way. My mind is unable to understand how a person can be prejudice, and my ethics will never change because of that.
My decision can be explained in two different ways for realizing which side I have chosen. The first way is the fact that the group is being prejudice against my friend. I am not prejudice, so I will always fight against it when it comes up. The second way is the fact that the group of people (and the community) is a greater number of people than my friend (and his/her family). I have always been the "little guy" being attacked by people, and I will do the same for any of my friends that are faced with overwhelming numbers/odds as this friend is.
The two reasons that are listed above are all the things that people need to look at to know my intensions. I have always stood up to the "bullies" that I have faced in life, and this is no different. Although many of my friends are included in the "bullies" side, I will stand up for anything I believe is right. I know that I will push against some friendships more than others, however I will gain whatever respect comes from doing this. I will not stand by and allow such things as prejudice to exist around me when I have the ability to stand up against it. I wasn't involved in this prejudicial situation until I was attacked. I am glad the attack happened because now I have the ability to see something that I couldn't before.
Regardless of what anyone else may think my reasons for the side I have chosen maybe, I will fight for this side. I will be fighting for the right things in this fight, and I will not back-down from any of those people. I know that I will test my friendships with many of those people, however I cannot be a friend with any person that would do such cruel things willingly. I don't understand how someone can be prejudice, and I will not stand by as it happens to any of my friends. I will use my powers of persuasion in this fight, which causes me to become a strong ally.
The preparation that I have been doing with myself this past week will prove how strong an ally I can be. Many people do not realize that I stay neutral in many fights because I agree with both sides. This will be the first time in a long time that I disagree with a side of a fight. This is also the first time that I will be going against some of my friends at the same time. I am preparing for one hell of a fight, and I will not back-down regardless if friendships will need to be sacrificed. I will not be a friend with anyone that is prejudice.
Although my mind is preparing for the worst, in this fight, I am also hoping that many people wills see my way of thinking. The mind will tell you when it senses trouble, and with times like these the mind will tell you of all the trouble available. I just hope that my friends are able to respect me enough to listen to me, and realize why I am standing on the side that I am standing on. When prejudice is being the reason behind a dispute, the dispute is useless to have. Where I am now involved in a fight that could take a while to get through, I have been preparing myself for the worst. I have also been exercising my mind for comments that should provoke me to say things that I would regret later on in life. I have been preparing to not say those types of comments. In doing so I have been developing a defense for this fight.
The war against prejudice has always existed. Most of the time that you hear about prejudice is when race is a factor. Fortunately race is not a factor this time. This type of prejudice many people do not see unless you are involved in the dispute somehow. Where I wasn't involved before, I never saw the prejudice that the group (and the community) has against my friend (and his/her family). This will be a fight that I will fight because it is the right thing to do.
The one thing that could cause more difficulties is if someone tries to involve my family in the dispute. I have requested to keep my family out of the dispute because I know that my family would try to get me to just "stand by" as the dispute happened. I will not do that regardless if my family or my friends tell me to do that. I will do what I feel is right, and the only way that I will not be part of this fight is when this fight is over. I will do what is right and there is no one that can make me see any differently about this fight.
When my mind and heart agree about any topic, the dedication that I will show causes me to become a very powerful ally. I will use my resources of persuasion to help my friend battle against the prejudice that everyone has against him/her and his/her family. I will do this because it is the right thing to do, and many people know that when I have decide to do something that you can't force me to stop (without physical attacks used).
I know that many of you may think that I am nuts to do the preparation that I have been doing. Many of you would go to the side of the greater number of friends, or even the friends that you have been with the longest. These would be good reasons for anyone to assist his/her friends, however those reasons are why I try to stay neutral during any fight between friends. Those of you that believe that I am nuts because of that should consider the reason for the dispute, and ask yourself whether you would support any friend through something you don't agree with. I know that I wouldn't be able to support any of my friends through something I didn't support, that is why I am going against the odds and doing what is right.
I will do what is necessary regardless of the consequences. I know that many people of my family will tell me to stay out of it, and I know that I will demand to know where he/she stands on the topic. If that family member says that he/she is at a neutral spot, I will be forced to oppose him/her because I feel differently about the situation. I know that it is not my "direct" fight; however if someone feels to drag me into something I will fight how I feel is right. God would be the only one that could stop me from this fight because no one else has the power to do it otherwise. A revolt against certain people has been over due to happen, and now that it has I am happy it is for a worthy cause.
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