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Many people have told me is the past couple of months to "think about growing up". I have yet to take that advise and do it as anything. My friends & family have told me that same thing when I was in grade 12 and when I was in college, however I have not done it yet. Now I am starting to feel "old" where my sister and her friends are going to college/university soon.
Some people grow up faster than other people; this can be both good and bad depending on the person. I have found that if you stay as "a child by heart" you have the ability to continue in life and still keep a certain innocents at the same time. There are many people that have a problem with a person over 19 years of age to still be "a child by heart", and those same people are the ones that are telling me to "grow up". I haven't listened to anybody so far, and unless something weird happens, I probably won't listen to those people. I have used the excuse to many people that tell me to "grow up" that if they knew my younger brother ("grew up" - at least in these people's eyes - in high school), that's why I refuse to "grow up" (ego very big).
Recently I heard my sister and her friends talking about the whole "marriage" thing. They mentioned that one pair of friends are already engaged to be married, and there is another friend that is being pressured by her "boy friend" to get married after high school, but she wants to wait until she has a career. In my opinion, the "boy friend" is pressuring because he either feels that she may find someone better than him in college/university, or he is trying to get in her pants (if he hasn't been there yet). It is most likely a cross between the two.
I know that many of my graduate class from high school were into getting married before having a career, and some of them are still waiting to move out of their parents' house. Some of those had moved out to be with their boy friend, and now are back (with child) and are unable to have a career yet. There are also some of those people that were voted "most likely to succeed" and got "home sick" and left college/university to go home. Each of those people were considered "already grown up" and they are currently unable to succeed in life. However, there are some that made it but there are just a few of them. I am still "a child by heart" as I was in high school, and many people have a problem with that. I say that people should be more like me and try to keep some innocents with you when dealing with the "real world". There is a better chance to succeed in life if you can look at all angles without having a "strain of the brain" compared to those that "grew up" and have problems seeing how to have "fun" again.
For many people "growing up" means that you will have to sacrifice any innocents that you have left from being young. This also means to ignore anything that would let you have some "fun". For those that want you to "grow up" they have already done it and want you to do it too. For a person like me, that is not a sacrifice I am willing to make. That is a sacrifice I probably won't make in my lifetime, unless of course I am stuck in a hospital bed for a long period of time. Even then, I would retract the sacrifice when I got out of the hospital. So it would actually be a temporary sacrifice.
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