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It is always good to develop as many friendships as possible throughout life. It is good to be able to share yourself with others. It is also good to be able to be around other people and having some trust with the person. As life goes on, you will be able to talk with any of those friends when you need to. The more friends that you have, the better chance that if something bad happens (you get depressed) your friends will be able to help you get better.
Having a lot of friends is always good. Even if you are unable to see those friends a lot, it is always good to have them nonetheless. Having friends will help you out in life. When you have a lot of friends you can go visit some when you are not talking to the other friends. This allows you to still be social in a way, and not have to be alone a lot. If you have very few friends, you will have a higher chance to be alone most of the time. This is true especially if you live a longer distance than either of you are willing to travel every day. This would mean that you would only be able to see them on the weekends. This makes for very lonely days.
It is always good to make new friends. Many people do not realize it, but part of customer-relations is to seem open to a form of friendship with the customers. When a person works in any environment that deals with the public, you will need the customer-relations skills. When you having returning business from a customer, you seem to be a little more relaxed with the person. At times you are able to joke around with the customer when he/she starts to become a "usual". It is good to be able to treat a customer as a friend because it just seems right to do stuff like that. It will also help create an atmosphere to have the customer do return business with you.
To make new friends is difficult at times. It is difficult to trust someone new. If you seem to kind, people will be wandering what your "game" is because it is very distrustful to have someone be extremely kind. It just seems to be weird at times, where most scam-artists will use that way to gain your trust. Everyone is defensive when around new people, especially if the new person seems to be "too kind".
From personal experience, I can say that it is difficult to create friendships. Most people have a hidden reason to become your friend, and I have done that in the past. I have several friends that the hidden agenda for me was to have protection from everyone else. I am not a physical person and in any given school you have bullies. Bullies will always pick on the people that will not fight back (especially with punches), so having friends to protect me was always good. My current closest friends are like family to me. The ones that are older than me are like older brothers. As I have learned in the past, siblings are the only ones that are allowed to beat on you; if anyone else (like bullies) try to beat on you the siblings will stand up for you.
I have always been able to talk to anyone, without a concern if he/she was a stranger or not. I seem to be able to talk to older people better than people of my own age, or younger. It is easy to talk to the older people because they will always talk to you nicely. I have found that some people in my own age-bracket will think that you are nuts when you try to talk to them. It seems to be more difficult to start a conversation with the younger people because it is difficult to find a subject that they are willing to talk about. Older people will talk about anything, especially if it is to criticize the government.
I have found that it is difficult to make new friendships. This is true especially because of the friends I currently have. There are no problems when I try to form friendships with any males, however when I try to form them with females, my friends become difficult. As it has been said for generations, men are pigs; well this is true for most of my friends. It is easy to tell my friends that the girl and myself are just friends, however it is difficult to make them understand it. As I said, men are pigs. Certain friends of mine will try to say that I am looking for something more than friendship with the girl, no matter what I say about it. It becomes difficult to have a friendship with a girl with that type of attitude from those friends.
Most of the female friends that I have are friends of friends, family of friends, former classmates, or family. Where I have had problems "opening up" in the past to people, I have had difficulties being able to make friends with females outside those four areas. I do have a few female friends however not many. I have found that making a friendship with no hidden agenda is the best way to start the friendship. To have a hidden agenda, such as trying to sleep with the girl, is the wrong way to go. It is the way to go for a "one-night-stand", however not the way to go to be friends with the girl.
When the friendship seems to be strong, and it seems that you and the other person are close, then you can be more open with them. It is especially good to have a friendship with someone of the opposite sex. I say this because it is always good to have the opinion of the opposite sex about everything. It gives you the ability to see what is wrong with an idea without actually going ahead with the idea/thought. For example, getting an "honest opinion" about this site before I actually put it for the world to see. A member of the opposite sex has told me, that it should be good to see what others think. I have been also told that I am nuts for some of these thoughts, by people that didn't know what the thoughts were going to be used for. The honest opinion I have received from the opposite sex is all I needed to help me see that I could be doing something good after all. It shows that I put more trust in that friendship than I do with the other people's friendships.
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