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It is hard to believe that all guys think about is cars, money and sex. No matter who the guy thinks he is, those three things are always on his mind. When any guy is asked, "what is on your mind" the guy will always say it is not one of the three things listed above. It is difficult to understand why guys think this way; it could be because they are all pig-headed perverts.
When two guys are talking together, usually joking around, one of them will bring up sex into the conversation, somehow. I cannot understand why it is so important for guys to joke about sex all the time. As far as most guys are concerned when a special occasion comes up, guys expect to have sex due to the special occasion. Whether it is an anniversary, Christmas, New Years, Valentine's Day, prom/graduation, or a birthday guys expect to have sex on those days. It seems that guys only really have a one-tracked mind. I say that this can't be normal. What really doesn't make sense is that even a guy that is a virgin will expect that he will have sex on those days too. It is expected that the date/girl-friend/wife is to do this as a present for the guy. It seems that guys are extremely pig-headed because of this.
I personally do not see a reason for a guy to think this way. I understand why guys think this way; it is because guys are pig-headed perverts with a one-track mind. However, I do not see a real reason for guys to think this way. Most guys are possessive to women because the guys feel that they need to have the power, in a relationship. It is wrong, but it still happens. When a guy feels that he doesn't have the power in the relationship, the guy will start to become violent at times. This is an unhealthy fact about any guy, when he has lost power he becomes dangerous. When guys start to act this way, it makes a bad name for the rest.
I believe that the reason that guys joke around about sex, as much as they do, is because they aren't getting any. When a guy jokes to another guy it seems that they are serious, however it doesn't appear to be them bragging. It seems that the guys are sharing wishes with each other. Older guys seem to joke around with the younger guys more. It doesn't seem likely that the older guys are getting any, so they seem to need to joke around with the younger ones to act like the older guys are better than the younger guys. The problem is whether the older guy realizes how lame he seems to the younger guy when doing that.
When a bunch of guys are together, it is necessary to be able to out-do everyone else in the group. So having sex is one way that guys think that out-doing everyone else is available. These guys also believe that it gives them "bragging rights" when they have sex. It is wrong to treat sex the way that guys do, to them it is one big competition to see who can get it the most. It shows how immature guys really are. It shows that guys are pigheaded-perverts that should be taught a lesson on what life is really about. It is sad that guys think this way, and there is no hope for any of them. When any guy acts like this, it makes all guys look bad. The worst of it is that there is about 99% of the guys will act like this. It is sad to be able to say that. This is true especially for the married men. They will act the same type of childish ways that other guys are, when they are around each other.
It shows that men are the true children of the world. They are so childish that it is difficult to see any guy not being that way. Some guys are able to "put up a good front" around women when they are out with other people, however it is all an act. Unless the guy is one of 1% of guys that are serious about the way they act around other people when a woman is around, the guy is just acting nice to make it look like he is mature. It is difficult to be able to see if a guy is serious or not because some of the guys may have had a lot of practice at it. Some guys it is easy to see because when the woman leaves the guy for a brief couple of minutes, the guy will go to his friends are start doing some "bragging rights" with them. The guy may be lying to his friends about the "date" (or whatever it may be) however it shows how immature that guy would be.
When you look at the world as a whole, it is sad how it has turned for the worst the more that people go into the future. There are many problems with the world, however many people turn a blind-eye to it all and pretend that it doesn't exist. The older people believe the way that he/she had grown up, and seem to not realize that the world has changed greatly. In the past it was believed that in any relationship, the guy was always right and the girl was at fault regardless of the situation. This is also how many men feel still today, so they believe it is impossible for them to be caught doing anything wrong. This is the reality of how a guy thinks, and this is how most of the world still thinks. This is not the truth; it is just a way to not believe that the world is not perfect.
There are many people, such as myself, that can't believe situations like this are as close to home as they really are. It has been the belief that larger areas, such as cities, would be the only place to see such idiotic behavior in anyone. That belief is wrong because this type of thing will happen in any area. The smaller the area is, the more people believe that he/she is safe and do not need to worry about anyone taking advantage of him/her. It is also believed that if anything happens in a small area that everyone in the area would know within days, however this is only true in certain situations. It is sad to see/hear about people turning a blind eye to things that he/she doesn't want to see/hear about. If a gang is beating a person, many people have decided to look the other way and not be involved. It is believed that if you don't interfere, the problem will solve itself. This is wrong, however understandable because everyone prefers to feel safe when he/she knows that nothing bad happens to him/her. This behavior needs to end for people to really be safe.
When people realize that guys are more aggressive than what they use to be, people will be able to see how the world has changed. During any relationship, it is seen that the girl is the one in control. In reality, this is true for less than 0.05% of relationships. The reality of any relationship is that the guy will seem to be the one without power, however it is a known fact that the guy is the aggressor of the relationship. Whether the girl feels that she has control or not, the guy is actually in control (except in very few cases). When a situation goes bad, the guy is seen to be the innocent one because the world is still not ready to see that the guy is the one that is wrong. The sayings I hear the most from people are "the girl asked for it", "the girl deserved it", "the girl just wants attention and to destroy the good name of the guy", and of course "the way the girl dresses, I'm not surprised". These sayings are what the guys say to each other, and after a short amount of time people start to believe what has been said. It is wrong to think this way, and it needs to stop.
Many women will feel that the bad situation is their fault, and the guy was not wrong. This has been the way for a long time, and it is the wrong way to think. Regardless of what happens between a guy and a girl, the girl is not at fault. The girl will feel that she is because society has made the girl to believe that she is the reason that the bad situation happened. Many of us do not see/hear about these types of situations unless it is a friend of a friend of a friend. We do not hear about this type of thing closer to home because we do not believe that it is possible to have it happen. Reality is a bitch at times because it shows us that we are not in a perfect world. If we were in a perfect world, guys would not have the power that they have currently. A guy could be abusive towards a girl, and the guy will be seen as the victim in society standards. The guy, and his friends, will spread rumors that the girl was a "slut" or that she "was 'that' way". The problem is that society will believe the guy over the girl because it has been said that the girl "should know better", so society condemns the girl from the start. People need to realize that this type of attitude needs to stop and change to protect the girl.
Many times that an assault, etc. happens and the girl feels that she is at fault, the situation is "kept quiet". This just allows the guy to get away with what he had done, and gives him the confidence that he could do it again. I know of many people that "joke" about doing such things, and I have told those same people what I thought about them at the same time. I do not understand the need to "joke" about a serious thing like this, however most guys do not care about how it sounds. It is wrong for guys to "joke" about things like this, and it is especially worse when a guy is no longer "joking" about it.
It is also known by many people that guys do not consider the problem with what they do. Guys will tend to do things without thinking about whom it may hurt, and many of them don't care. Most guys do what they do just for them and don't care about the consequences because they know that they can make it look like they are innocent. With the way that society is today, most of the guys do get away with it because of the way society looks at stuff like this. The problem that comes up a lot is when the guy is seen, to the public, as a good guy and something like a girl files an assault charge against him. The public sees the girl, as the bad person because society is unable to accept that the guy could have done such a thing, due to the "good guy" reputation that he has.
In my opinion when something like this happens, the girl should be seen as the victim until it can be proven otherwise. Rumors are not necessarily the truth, and many people need to learn this. When society is able to accept that the guy is at fault, more so than the girl, then steps to help the girl can be started. Currently society has made "half assed efforts" to help women through bad situations. It is seen by society that the girl is in the wrong, and many times the girl feels the same way. The problem is that society, as a whole, makes more impressions on people than what people realize. Situations like these should never be "swept away" because these situations tend to come back to haunt the people involved. If the "true victim" is unable to conquer the pain of the situation, then the victim will stay a victim for a long period of time. The amount of suffering a person can go through has no limits because every person is different.
In very few cases, the guy is not at fault because the girl is trying to setup the guy. For situations like this, this type of girl makes it hard for society to see that all girls aren't like this. It is unfortunate that there is the odd girl that is making it harder for society to see who really is at fault for these situations. Hopefully time will help, however there is always the odd one that will screw it up for the rest. My views may seem harsh to some people and showing that guys are not the victims can seem overbearing, however I also know how many guys think. What I have shown you is the truth in my eyes, and there is nothing you can say to sway my opinion. Regardless of how much effort is put through the law system about girl vs. guy situations, society has not changed his/her opinion yet. Until society's opinion about these situations is changed, it won't matter what the law changes. When society's opinion is changed, then situations like this can be solved more accurately and truthfully. Until that happens, situations like this will happen.
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