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It seems that everyone expects that everyone else should be as happy as can be on February 14 of every single year. There are many people that believe also on this day that if you give out lots of gifts that you are being good to you and others. I have reason to believe this day is just another day that businesses take advantage of the consumer. Every business will put product out for this day knowing that it will be bought at whatever price they put it at, and after the day has passed, they can drop it to a more sensible price and still make a profit.
I find that Valentine's Day is just another way to have your money spent on nothing. Most of the stuff is chocolates and the rest are stuffed animals. The stuffed animals may last one or two years (if the people don't destroy them before then), and the chocolates won't last past that week (usually). It is just another one of those days that every single store likes cashing in for. They put things up to make it look like sales, however it really isn't. The only time that a person can really get a good deal from a store for an occasion like Valentine's Day, is when you come in the next day or 2 after Valentine's Day. Everything drops in price because they want to get rid of so they can make room for the next occasion, such as Easter.
Many people feel Valentine's Day differently. There are some people that believe that Valentine's Day is the day that lovers share together. There are some people that believe that Valentine's Day is a day to share happiness with his/her friends. There are also some that believe that Valentine's Day is just another day of the week. Of course there is always a negative way to look at something too. Those that feel that Valentine's Day is one of the loneliness times of the year, are believing in the "lovers share together" way of thinking.
I am one of those people that believe that Valentine's Day is a day to share happiness with your friends. In the past my friends and I have celebrated Valentine's Day together. We have always done something fun, and I never thought about Valentine's Day dealing with the "love" factor. This year I tried to do the same thing with a specific friend. Unfortunately I didn't consider how this friend thought about Valentine's Day in his/her mind, and I have caused a ripple/rift in the friendship.
The lack of foresight that I have for things like this has caused me to do something I never thought could happen. One of the friendships that I have in life I have caused a ripple/rift into and I feel helpless to try to fix the problem. Where the problem is myself and the amount of time that I spend with this friend, I am unable to foresee a solution other than the obvious. I have been told to stay away and I will; however I still feel I need to do something to help with what I have done. I am a very impulsive person that does things at "the spur of the moment", so I have been having great difficulties understanding that staying away from the person will be best. I have difficulties understanding because I am the type of person that wants everyone to like me, and I do like having people hate me for any reason no matter the reason.
I have been having difficulties all throughout this week with this one. I thought that staying away for a couple of nights were the type of "space" that was required, however my lack of foresight was shown this time. I try to spend as much of my free time as possible with my friends, however I seem to have crossed the boundaries of this friendship. I am in a difficult position now because I feel I have to do something, however I feel in doing so I could make things worse. That is the last thing that I need to do, to makes the ripple/rift in the friendship bigger than it is right now.
I know that the friendship is still intact, however I also know that the ripple/rift is in the friendship at the same time. I have said in the past to this friend that there is no limit to the favors, however this one will be the most difficult for me to do. I will obey because I know that if I don't obey, the friendship could be destroyed in the process. This is something that I definitely don't want to happen, and I believe that he/she doesn't want to happen either. I am currently in a loss for what to do, however I will respect my friend's wishes and will "back off".
I hope that this friend reads this to understand my thoughts of the whole situation. Where you want me to "stay away" for a certain amount of time (with no time set), we are unable to discuss it right now. You know me well enough to know that having you angry at me is something that I am not comfortable with, and I have this need to try to fix that. I will not go against your wishes because I do not want to cause any more damage to the friendship than what is already there. I know that the friendship was strong before this, however I also feel I did damage to the friendship when I did what I did.
I hope you are able to work through the anger/frustration that you feel towards me because it is never healthy to feel those things for a lot of time. As I said on Sunday, what you said was a lot for me to take in at once. I know that you didn't see that what was said was a lot, however it is still a lot regardless. When someone tells someone else to "back-off", for any reason, is usually something big for someone to understand/take in at once; regardless of the situation that was involved in having it happen.
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