bdsm is passion is it not? whether it is cool and calculating, or hot and firey, they are both passionate ways of life, because that is what we believe. being a submissive is not about letting someone beat the hell out of you, it is about freeing yourself from worries and letting go. being dominant is not about angry punishment, it is about taking the reins of control and guiding them.....not forcing them but guiding them along. rather like a dog that has been pushed into the corner too many times. if you as a dominant are unable to control your anger, your submissive will lash back out.

but on to happier subjects.....bdsm is not for everyone.....but for those that it feels right with, somuch more power to them. to be submissive and enjoy pain, does not mean that you feel you must be punished for something that you have done, oh no not in anyway way. to be submissive and enjoy pain you must first know what pleasure is i believe. there are so many differing opinions out there that i would be happy to discuss with anyone about what they believe is the correct way. But think about it, what is correct for one person may not be right for another. we are all different and somewhere, hopefully there is someone that will be able to make us ~romantic as it is~ melt for them.

if you have any questions about the terms i am about to use, please look here. Ok now if you have looked there and still have questions please feel free to mail me if you so choose.

As i stated before i am a submissive by nature, but even though i admit that i still find it hard to submit to everything or everyone. Let me state as well, that even though i am submissive, that does not mean that i am a door mat for people to walk over. I look at it like this, when i am submitting to my Dom/me or Master {also Mistress} it allows me to release my anxieties and allows me to embrace the vulnerabilities that i posses. Everyone has limits and mine are listed here.

i will admit that BDSM is not for everyone, nor is it all the time for myself {as of yet}. To be involved in BDSM means that one must follow safety rules just as you would in anything else. I mean would you walk blind into a raging fire without safety equipement. The same thing applies to participating in BDSM. It is simply a matter of consideration for your partner.