I'm looking for a man close to my own age with whom I can discuss life and the world and laugh and get sensible feedback; a companion in life's adventures and joys; someone who shares the same cultural history I do (listened to the same music, saw the same movies, witnessed the same world events at about the same age); someone who doesn't need to be touching all the time and doesnt take everything SO DAMN SERIOUSLY. I'd love to find someone who can surprise me occasionally with a new or different take on the world and make me think in new ways. A good sense of humor is essential (duh!). A childlike curiosity about the world, spontaneity and the ability to enjoy spur-of-the-moment adventures is very appealing to me. On the other hand, so is dependability and a small degree of predictability and adherence to a comfortable routine. I enjoy being around people who are grounded in reality, but are also full of eccentric and off-the-wall ideas. Not wishing to close any previously unopened doors beyond that, I think it's probably best to focus on what I'm NOT looking for rather than what I am. That way, anything beyond what I'm not looking for will come as a pleasant surprise and perhaps open new doors for me.

What I'm NOT looking for is a vegetarian/holistic medicine man, New Age devotee, a man who is uncomfortable with the reality of his age or appearance or is silly enough to be thinking he's going to attract a much younger woman or a woman whose income/appearance range is superior to his own. Nothing is less appealing to me than a man who states in his self-description that he is 55 but looks and feels 35 and acts 25. Who wants to be around a 55 year old man who acts 25? It's incongruous. I'm not attracted to men who affect silly, self-limiting personas (cowboys, motorcycle papas, beach bums, etc.). I'm not interested in sharing life with a trekkie, a fantasy/sci-fi nut, a MUFON-iac, a Native American culture worshiper or a medieval pagentry participant. In fact, I'm just not interested in people of either sex who are slavishly devoted to any one way, any one approach or any one thing in life. I like diversity and a wide range of interests in other people. INTERESTS; not obsessions. It's okay if you enjoy sailing/boating or golf, but not okay if it's a primary (or the sole) focus of your life. I don't long to spend life with men who wear ponytails, men who are still searching for their identity at this stage of their lives, men who still need mothers or handmaidens at this stage of their lives, heavy drinkers, smokers, compulsive gamblers, addictive personalities, stalkers, bigots, religious/political zealots, men who are not on friendly terms with reality, control freaks, men who must be right all the time and win every argument, or game players. I do not feel so besieged by people of other races or religions that I must separate myself from society and/or form a white supremacist group. I do not lie awake at night convincing myself that the government is so evil that my only reasonable recourse is to form a militia group. And I wouldn't enjoy being around a man who did. I could never be comfortable with anyone who believed he had an innate or a God-given right to kill anything for sport or anyone who needed to possess a gun in order to feel secure. Men who need to straddle powerful machines such as motorcycles, or who need to own sports cars, tank sized trucks or SUVs, big, notoriously vicious dogs, or stereo systems capable of making blast craters on the moon are not secure enough in their manhood for my preference.

I enjoy being around men who are able to be philosophical about and comfortable with reality, men who are content to be who and what they are, men who know and respect their own limitations. I'm most comfortable with someone whose happiness is not dependent on others, someone with a rich inner life of his own, someone who can be happily left to his own devices, but who also enjoys sharing activities with others when that's what's on the agenda. If I just happened to hook up with a man who enjoyed carpentry/fixing things up, gardening, cooking, home-focused nesting projects, etc. it would not be a tragedy for me. Shared interests and tastes would be fine, but it's not necessary across the board as long as we're willing to respect each other's differences and not depend on each other completely for entertainment and stimulation. I take an all-things-in-moderation approach to life and am most comfortable with others who do the same.

Material possessions and social status are not important to me, although physically comfortable and aesthetically pleasing surroundings are. I believe that good personal hygiene is a large part of physical attractiveness, but I don't care how much you cleaned him up and perfumed him, I could never feel sexually attracted to Robert Duval. LOVE to watch him act; have no desire to share a love nest with him. The man of my dreams must be reasonably educated and well-read although the number of degrees he possesses and the length of the list of esoteric authors he reads is not of interest to me. I'm sorry, but spelling and grammer count. Especially in this computer age of auto-correct and spell-check. It's just a personal quirk--I enjoy beautiful or powerful writing as much as the content of the written material. Cultural awareness is also important to me; otherwise who am I going to bemoan the sorry state of cultural evolution in the world with? (Yes, you equally obsessive grammer freaks out there, I know that should have been "with whom am I going to bemoan the, etc..., but there is a point where grammatical correctness just sounds silly in our modern world and common usage supercedes correctness).

I admit to having mixed feelings about inviting change into an independent, free-wheeling, fairly contented life such as mine, but if I sound like someone you would like to know or someone with whom you have some things in common, I would really like an opportunity to weigh the pros and cons of making the changes and accommodations necessary to enjoy the company of another like-minded but reasonably challenging human being in my life who is sincerely looking for an LTR. I dont want either of us to move tomorrow in order to be physically together and a correspondence would be helpful to me in deciding whether or not I want to make any momentous changes. Probably helpful to you, too. If you want to explore the possibilities, educate me to the errors of my thinking, or just exchange email or ICQ correspondence with me, links are provided below.

More Photos	About Me
The Man of My Dreams	Politically Incorrect Philosophical Drivel
Kid Pics	Muffin's Page (Pet Pics)
My Favorite Bulldog and Chinese Pug Links
Links to The Art of Wassily Kandinsky and Edward Hopper	Home Email
Work Email	And if you have ICQ, my ICQ number is 26941836

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