Congratulations and welcome back!


          You will be glad that you decided to continue developing your self awareness.  If you have read page by page, word for word, meaning through meaning, then you truly are a simple learner.
          Perhaps you skipped to this point, or maybe you didn't take some time off.  In either case, we call this an eager learner.
          A simple learner is a person who thinks with careful consideration.  We suggest that you review your answers to the questions before you continue.  You may desire to change some of your answers.  There is a possibility that you may have contradicted yourself.


contradict-v  To say the opposite, of what has been said.

          You may want to read through the meanings and be sure that you clearly understand natural compromise.


When are you hearing without listening?

          Accepting someone else's answers as your own, can be very compomising.  Someone else's words, good or otherwise, can create compromising word games.  How?  Through basic conversation.  Your words have the ability to compromise yourself as well as others.

conversation-v.  If you have a conversation with someone, you talk with that person for awhile.

NOTICE:  The above meaning does not state; talk to or at that person!

          We all think that we know what we're saying and hearing.  Thinking about what you have read and listening closely to what another is saying can create a pleasant and informative conversation.

          Never allow your understanding to be compromised.  Yor own thoughts have the ability to compromise your life.  Even though your words can compromise the ideas, thoughts and feelings of others, we are all responsible for our own automatic thoughts!

When you try to compromise for someone else, you steal his or her right to independent thought.


What causes complications in life?

          Here is an exercise that will assist you in arriving at an understanding about compromise.  While doing this exercise do not utilize one word more than one time.  At times people tend to repeat themselves to justify their own double standards, as well as other people's.  Write three words based on your preference, starting at the left and working to the right.  If you have trouble finding words that do not repeat, then look around the room or at what you are wearing.  It doesn't matter what the words are (please do not use names though).


D    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
O    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
U    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
B    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
L    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
E    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________


S    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
T    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
A    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
N    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
D    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
A    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
R    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
D    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
S    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________


C    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
O    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
M    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
P    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
L    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
I    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
C    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
A    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
T    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________
E    1.__________________      2.__________________      3.__________________

          Now go over your double standards list and read it from left to right.  You might want to consider working out some complications.


 How do double standards develop?

blame-v.  If you blame someone for something, you say it is his or her fault.

accuse-v.  blame, charge, denounce

denounce-v.  condemn, blame, censure, accuse

censure-v.  blame, reproach, chide, reprove

chide-v.  rebuke, scold, blame, reprove

reproach-v.  To blame someone, or to show that you disapprove of something the person said
  or did.

excuse-n.  1.  A reason you give to explain why you have done something wrong.
v.  2.  To give someone permission not to do something.
  3.  If you excuse someone from doing something, you forgive that person.

excuse-n.  1.  pardon, forgive
  2.  exempt, free, release
n.  3.  reason, plea, apology

          If you don't want to do something, and you give a reason without first being prompted by the question; Why?; are you simply giving an excuse rather than the real reason?


First learn to listen, then listen to learn:

          Let's begin with two well known, widely used words.  These two words are usually misused and, they are difficult to interpret.  If you listened last week during your time off, you probably heard the words want and need many times in a day.  In fact, you yourself, probably let these words pass through your own thoughts.

want-v.  1.  To feel that you would like to have, do, or get something:  to wish for; to desire;
        to want.
  2.  To need or require something.
v.  3.  A lack
n.  4.  A need, a desire, a requirement.
  5.  Poverty or hardship.

need-v.  1.  To want or require something urgently.
n.  2.  Something that you have to have.
v.  3.  To have to do something.
n.  4.  A necessity or an obligation.
  5.  Poverty or hardship.

have-   1.  hold, possess, own, keep
  2.  get, gain, obtain, take, acquire

          Are the words, need and want so similar, that without double standards they would become simply have?


Listen for the words, want and need in conversations:

          At this point in our lives, it could prove useful to forget about what we want or desire and concentrate on what is required in life.  Let's simply use the word have when referring to what is wanted or desired.

We have the need to want and desire.
We have the desire to want and need.

1.  Do your needs, wants, and desires represent necessary requiements?
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2.  Have your double standards, or someone else's, compromised your values?  How?
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3.  List three things that you have noticed since you began using this workbook.  Then ask yourself a few more questions, starting with:  " Why didn't I notice this before?"
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Always practice things in your mind when necessary.


To get what you want, you must know what you want.

          Make a want list for yourself.  Always question yourself about your desires before you add them to your want list.  This is what we call, " Practicing Dream Disappointment".  Think about how to get what you want, while thinking about what you desire.  Having what you want, can all to often be disappointing.  An unfulfilled dream, is an unquestioned thought or desire.  Try not to add material wants and desires to your list (unless it is a necessary requirement).


thought = desire = want = dream = get

          Disappointment is the feeling that you get from unfulfilled dreams.  Diappointment can lead to irritation and alienation.  To avoid this, you must ask yourself:  What?  Why?  How?  When?  Where?  Who?.  Question yourself about your concerns before you question others, or you never know what you might get!

He who has; had.
He who had; has.
He who halves; shares.


With effort you can recognize many new things.

          To recognize and realize yourself at the same time, may cause a very undeniable fear of life to penetrate the conscious mind.  This could lead to the point of paranoia or at least cause anxiety to rapidly develop.  Being honest with yourself, is the first step to clearing this type of fear.  Recognize your own efforts, and realize how damaging it has been to deny yourself recognition.  To realize the recognition will and does set you free.  Because, to recognize is to realize the truth.

  To let go; is not to adapt but, to change.

          Misunderstandings come with double standards and cause complications.  Misunderstandings are caused by poor communication; caused by mixed ideas, thoughts and/or feelings that occur through continuous self-negative thinking/behavior; negative compromise.  Positive ideas, thoughts and feelings will enable you to compromise/communicate respectably (not proudly) because, your integrity will be apparent.  When we proudly compromise, ignorance and denial seem ideal and acceptable.

embarrass-v.  If something embarrasses you, it makes you feel awkward and uncomfortable.

embarrass-v.  humiliate, harass, distress, vex, shame

shame-n.  1.  disgrace, dishonor, ignominy, embarrassment
v.  2.  abash, mortify, humiliate, disgrace, discredit


Never try to hide your embarrassment.

ignorant-adj.  1.  Not aware of something.
  2.  Not educated or not knowing many things.

ignore-v.  To take no notice of something.

innocent-adj.  1.  Not guilty
  2.  Not knowing about something.


ignornant-adj.  1.  uneducated, unlettered, untrained, illiterate
  2.  unaware

ignore-adj.  1.  disregard, neglect, overlook, snub

innocent-adj.  1.  guiltless, sinless, faultless, blameless
  2.  harmless, inoffensive, naive

          The innocence of ignorance is something felt, seen, and heard.  The fisrt sign of ignorance is embarrassment.  To feel or notice any ignorance, then trying to cover it up by ignoring it, causes an extreme feeling of embarrassment; the ignorance of innocence.

An innocent mind is not stupid (uneducated).
An ignorant mind is not stupid (unknown).

To show ignorance, is to show unawareness.

To show innocence, is to show unawareness.

To ignore innocence, is to be stupid.

To ignore ignorance, is to be stupid.


Ignorance compromises intelligence.

1.  Does ignorance shown cause us to be or feel embarrassment?  How?  When?
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2.  Do you become embarrassed if you are compromised?  Why?
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3.  Should you become embarrassed when you compromise other people?  Why?  How?
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4.  What embarrasses you while you are compromising with someone?  Why?
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5.  Does another's ignorance bother you?  Why?
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Embarrassment shows innocence.

6.  Is it ignorance when a person shows intelligence?  Why?
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7.  Is it innocence when people show intelligence?  Why?  How?
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8.  Do you become embarrassed from ignorance or innocence alone?  Yes_____ No_____

9.  Do you know what it feeld like to be ignorant yet innocent?  Yes_____ No_____

10.  Would we become free of innocence, if we stop ignoring ignorance?  Yes_____ No_____

11.  Do you know what it feels like to be innocent yet ignorant?  Yes_____ No_____


To show innocence; is to claim and acknowledge ignorance.

To innocently ignore; is to ignore innocence.

Don't be ignorant in order to remain innocent.


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